Dealing With Heartbreak
Jul 26, 2026 · 29 min · 9 segments
It's brutal
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Jul 26, 2026 · 29 min · 9 segments
It's brutal
Um, because yeah, I think it's just a shock to your nervous system, right? Like you, you feel so dysregulated because what once was isn't anymore, you know? you know that feeling, man, of your heart, like when you can feel your heart physically aching because of a heartbreak.
I think the first time I felt that, I was in high school, I think, when I could feel that like, yo, I am in pain, man.
And I think we, like, yeah, we experience it in varying degrees depending on the situation, on the person, yeah, on the cause of it and all the rest.
And especially if you don't know just how to function during it, if you don't know how to cope, if you don't have the tools and all of that kind of stuff necessary to kind of see you through that season.
Because as I said, the beginning kind of feels like it feels like the worst thing ever.
But also it's different for everybody, right? Like I think if you kind of are more avoidant, the beginning might feel a bit, you might feel detached from the experience.
You might feel detached from the emotion and stuff like that until a couple of months down the line when it catches up to you and you're like, oh my goodness.
You know, I know I have people in my life who, yeah, they don't necessarily, they cannot connect to the emotion in the time that it's happening.
And I wonder how that happens, right? But they push it so, so, so far away that they feel basically dissociated, you know, from the experience and what has happened and stuff like that.
It's too much to go through that they would rather just you know, distract themselves or occupy their minds or whatever with everything else than to sit in it.
Like immediately I can feel like I'm absorbed by the pain and all of that kind of stuff.
But I think like, you know, the more, the older I get and stuff, I'm a bit more, I don't know.
Um, because yeah, I think it's just a shock to your nervous system, right? Like you, you feel so dysregulated because what once was isn't anymore, you know? you know that feeling, man, of your heart, like when you can feel your heart physically aching because of a heartbreak.
I think the first time I felt that, I was in high school, I think, when I could feel that like, yo, I am in pain, man.
And I think we, like, yeah, we experience it in varying degrees depending on the situation, on the person, yeah, on the cause of it and all the rest.
And especially if you don't know just how to function during it, if you don't know how to cope, if you don't have the tools and all of that kind of stuff necessary to kind of see you through that season.
Because as I said, the beginning kind of feels like it feels like the worst thing ever.
But also it's different for everybody, right? Like I think if you kind of are more avoidant, the beginning might feel a bit, you might feel detached from the experience.
You might feel detached from the emotion and stuff like that until a couple of months down the line when it catches up to you and you're like, oh my goodness.
You know, I know I have people in my life who, yeah, they don't necessarily, they cannot connect to the emotion in the time that it's happening.
And I wonder how that happens, right? But they push it so, so, so far away that they feel basically dissociated, you know, from the experience and what has happened and stuff like that.
It's too much to go through that they would rather just you know, distract themselves or occupy their minds or whatever with everything else than to sit in it.
Like immediately I can feel like I'm absorbed by the pain and all of that kind of stuff.
But I think like, you know, the more, the older I get and stuff, I'm a bit more, I don't know.
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