ADHD & Attachment Styles (Why You Keep Falling for the Wrong People)

When you hear people talk about ADHD, is there something that you keep hearing is quite wrong?

Lots of things that people miss.

It's not necessarily an attention deficit.

It is something where your attention can be difficult to regulate.

ADHD naturally can intensify a lot of the symptoms of complex trauma for example you feel more emotional intensity from time to time and your attention can hyperfixate on that

one million children were diagnosed last year do you see misdiagnosis i

see that a whole lot somebody with adhd is going to experience far more direct firm correction than somebody without adhd there's so much confusion out there

You're one of the very few people who's talking about this.

And then giving somebody ADHD medication to someone who has CPTSD can lead to a lot of shame.

Because now you're taking this medication, you're wondering, well, what's wrong with me? Why isn't it working? But I don't think that's it.

I think that with ADHD, you get such firm corrective experiences in childhood.

So in dating, you take all that.

So when you feel that something is interesting to you and there's chemistry, the bigger your investment becomes, the more your impulsivity grows.

It makes it so that you can fall in love far too quickly sometimes, so that you are someone who experiences far more limerence, far more impulsive urges to connect with someone, And so in other words, you are going to be re-traumatized by rejection because this often can be so off-putting that the other person needs to walk away.

And then you're left thinking, see, I need to work harder.

Your motivation is not connected to the way you've been wired.

It's connected to the feeling of missing water in a desert.

Is it possible for you to create a scene for me of like how somebody becomes avoidant?

Wow, you're right.

You're asking me the questions that people have not asked me before.

I like this.