When Love Changes but Parenting Doesn’t

[sighs] I, I, I don't know.

Let me just talk to you, but I, I, I'm just...

I'm not gonna get thrown off by that, that it wasn't a big deal.

They have other damage on their vehicle, and they're very old.

So good for them, for they have each other, and that's truly the least of their worries.

I'm sure they're just happy that they made it this high up into their nineties alive and well.

Um, okay.

So I am in San Diego with Shams and Tommy, and I wanna talk about co-parenting, and I wanna a little bit touch on all the AMAs, little questions and things that we talk about when we're in such a brand-new, scary, but new, and could be beautiful, has the potential of being really healthy phase.

It's been a very difficult, tumultuous, rocky road.

It's been full, uh, you know, I... my heart has been plagued with so many questions and all of my, [swallows] you know, my personality is to be really analytical, but I also am so aware of not wanting to repeat anything.

I'm in therapy so that I'm learning about the difference between, you know, even the things that my dad, my beautiful, sweet, kind father, who devoted his entire life to me, which is what I am saying that I'm doing for Shams.

And that there are good and bad things to, no matter what kind of a childhood, I think.

I noticed in therapy with my-With my dad that I also wanna learn from and take the good, and then I wanna also make sure I don't repeat the bad.

I'm just worried.

I'm a worrywart.

I don't wanna be, right? Because that was the other beautiful layer of, of like as a world, we, we all, we are all carrying so much.

We're carrying on our h- on our heads so much every day that w- a win is that when you don't.

The win in life is that I can laugh more and I can s- find that through educating myself with studies and research and research, as they say, so that we're like actually winning, you know, like Charlie Sheen said.

[laughs] Um, okay.

So here's the deal.

The research that...

And this is why I love all the therapy that we're learning.

It's that, it's that, it's, it's not just about emotion, it's about results, okay? And I hope that you guys can tell that what I'm sharing is researched based, um, like tools to, to apply to life.

Um, so the research consistently shows that the quality of the relationship between parents matters more whether we're married or separated.

So that means that when kids get to see their parents cooperating together and being kind to each other, they feel safer, and they're also gonna...