Love Needs No Words: Fatherhood, Non-Speaking Communication and Finding Connection Beyond Language with James Hunt

Isn't that incredible? I often think about how sometimes we can't always have the conversations we need to in our local life.

Yeah.

And that's for all kinds of different reasons.

And there are sometimes people that we can have those conversations.

But generally, as you describe, when people ask us casually, how are we? They're not asking, please stop for an hour and tell me your whole life.

Yeah.

You know, and navigating when is it appropriate to talk about this? Do they want to hear this? Or do I want to share this? I can imagine it's, you know, all of that.

But then to start to get all, you know, from all corners of the earth that people contact him.

What did that create for you? What, you know, what was that like to have that?

I think exactly what you said.

Firstly, it helps you feel like you're not alone, which I know for many families in the early days, you do feel very much like that.

Even for some of us, as the years go on, still feel very alone and that there's not anyone around us who gets it, who understands.

And I didn't realise how important that was.

I feel like Tommy and Jude's mum, Charlotte, realised that very early on and wanted those friendships and people to talk about it with.

And I didn't.

I just wanted to carry on with my friends talking about football and films and holidays and anything else but the realities.

And...

I started to see that actually it's nice to have someone that you don't have to explain everything to who just gets it.

And you can talk about the harder things.

You can talk about, uh, the fears you have.

You can talk about how exhausted you are or how stressed you are.

And, and having that like that, I'd say in that first year made a good few friendships of people.

I still talk to now just by message.

You've never met them because they're miles and miles away.

But who just realised in our lives that we had something in connection.