Why You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People with Sabrina Zohar

HELP US WIN A SIGNAL AWARD - VOTE FOR THE TAMSEN SHOW HERE Why do we keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? And why is it so hard to break unhealthy relationship patterns, even when we know better? In this episode of *The Tamsen Show*, dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins Tamsen Fadal to explain anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, relationship anxiety, and how childhood experiences shape the way we love, date, and connect with others. Tamsen opens up about her own history of chasing unavailable men, including her real-life Mr. Big, and how finding a secure relationship later in life changed her understanding of love. Sabrina, author of *Why Am I Like This?*, breaks down the four attachment styles, why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in painful relationship cycles, and why some of us keep choosing people who can’t give us what we need. More importantly, she explains how to recognize these patterns and start changing them. **You’ll learn:** \- The four attachment styles and how they affect your relationships \- Why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in a painful push-and-pull cycle \- Why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people \- How childhood experiences can influence your adult relationships \- The question to ask yourself when rejection or abandonment triggers you \- How to build a more secure attachment style \- What to know before dating again after divorce or heartbreak \- Why choosing to stay single can sometimes be rooted in fear Whether you’re single, dating, married, or starting over, this conversation will help you understand the patterns you bring into relationships and how to stop repeating the ones that hurt you. If you liked this episode, listen to: The Narcissist Decoder: How Smart Women Get Trapped in Emotional Abuse If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form **Stay connected with Tamsen:** ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Sabrina on Instagram Get Sabrina's book, Why Am I Like This? **Sponsors:** Unlock your best skin with @iRestorelaser and save on the new Laser Face Mask Pro! Use code TAMSEN at iRestore.com/TAMSEN. #irestorepod Use code TAMSEN at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/TAMSEN #rulapod Learn more about your ad choices, click here **Medical Disclaimer:** The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices