Aug 12, 2026 · 43 min · 16 segments
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Okay, so we have a listener question.
Okay.
From a guy, says, "Struggling," oops, "struggling with, struggling with my high sex drive in a long distance relationship.
I am a 20-year-old male currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who is 25.
We are actually in different continents, and she lives with her mom and sisters.
We text all day and have audio calls regularly when she's... and, and when she's home alone, we video call, too.
So here's the issue.
I have a very high sex drive, and before this relationship I've had, I had several sexual partners, but being in a long distance relationship has, has been tough for me in terms of sexual frustration.
We do engage in dirty talk and some sexting.
About half the time I initiate, but she's also very enthusiastic and takes the lead sometimes." Um, he says, "She also initiates these conversations about the other half of the time.
But I've been struggling a lot recently because these sexual conversations get me worked up, and it's hard to control myself afterwards, and naturally it makes me want to ask her for nudes or more explicit content.
The tricky part is that while we used to exchange that kind of stuff before, now she avoids it.
She either makes excuses or brushes it off, and if I push the subject she makes me feel like I'm obsessed with her body, which isn't the case.
I just have a high sex drive and miss her and our intimacy.
I don't want to put pressure on her or ruin the relationship, but I also don't know how to cope with this other side of myself in a long distance and potentially long term situation or relationship.
Um, I'd really appreciate any advice or perspective on how to handle this in a healthy and respectful way.
Thanks in advance."
That's tough.
Mm-hmm.
'Cause if they're on different continents, like-
Mm
... maybe long distance isn't for him, eh? [laughs]
Yeah.
So I was just like, I just maybe two weeks ago, this randomly stopped, but I was talking to a guy in Canada.
We talked every day.
Okay, so we have a listener question.
Okay.
From a guy, says, "Struggling," oops, "struggling with, struggling with my high sex drive in a long distance relationship.
I am a 20-year-old male currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who is 25.
We are actually in different continents, and she lives with her mom and sisters.
We text all day and have audio calls regularly when she's... and, and when she's home alone, we video call, too.
So here's the issue.
I have a very high sex drive, and before this relationship I've had, I had several sexual partners, but being in a long distance relationship has, has been tough for me in terms of sexual frustration.
We do engage in dirty talk and some sexting.
About half the time I initiate, but she's also very enthusiastic and takes the lead sometimes." Um, he says, "She also initiates these conversations about the other half of the time.
But I've been struggling a lot recently because these sexual conversations get me worked up, and it's hard to control myself afterwards, and naturally it makes me want to ask her for nudes or more explicit content.
The tricky part is that while we used to exchange that kind of stuff before, now she avoids it.
She either makes excuses or brushes it off, and if I push the subject she makes me feel like I'm obsessed with her body, which isn't the case.
I just have a high sex drive and miss her and our intimacy.
I don't want to put pressure on her or ruin the relationship, but I also don't know how to cope with this other side of myself in a long distance and potentially long term situation or relationship.
Um, I'd really appreciate any advice or perspective on how to handle this in a healthy and respectful way.
Thanks in advance."
That's tough.
Mm-hmm.
'Cause if they're on different continents, like-
Mm
... maybe long distance isn't for him, eh? [laughs]
Yeah.
So I was just like, I just maybe two weeks ago, this randomly stopped, but I was talking to a guy in Canada.
We talked every day.
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