Sep 10, 2026 · 1 hr 16 min · 16 segments
Four real people, four very different kink journeys, and a whole lot of proof that listening to your kink can actually change your life. **Book A Consult Call with Amanda**…
Amanda DamesHostAshGuestJohnGuestRaeGuestAlexGuest
GracieLou FreebushGuestMy pleasure.
My pleasure.
Happy to see you again.
I was so excited that you were willing to share because I think we have both aligned on the fact that your story's an interesting one, and possibly unlike any of my other clients' stories that I'd have to share.
But why don't we start at the beginning of what made you reach out and wanna work with a coach?
Well over two years ago, t- maybe even close to three, I was exploring kink.
I was in a very happy marriage, but I was exploring kink, and my wife at the time said, "If you wanna open up the marriage to explore this, you are more than welcome to." And I use the word explore, but I've been kinky for as long as I can remember.
Back in high school, dabbling here and there, playing in private, but then I kind of internalized it when I got married because I knew that my wife at the time just wasn't interested in it.
We played with toys, went to sex shops, those types of things.
But lucky enough, as an amazing person as she is, she allowed me to open up the marriage so I can start exploring.
And then I started having a consecutive play partner.
I was getting very horrible dom drop after playing with this individual, and I didn't know what it was.
I was searching for kinky things online, and lo and behold, on Instagram, Amanda popped up and I liked her vibe and I messaged her, and we've been sharing the same space ever since.
I do have a question, just for clarification purposes, around when you opened up.
Was it just to explore kink, or was it sexually and to explore kink? Were there any barriers or boundaries put in place?
So for me, it was kink/sexual because for me, at the time, it shared the same space.
It shared the same Venn diagram where I wanted impact, sensation play, maybe a little Cnc, maybe a little ripping of the clothes, and me as a dominant, I wanted that sexual power as well.
Obviously, all enthusiastically negotiated.
So when it came to moving from having a monogamous marriage to a open marriage, the openness came from, again, like I said, having the kink involved and then also the sexual encounters involved as well.
The regular partner that I was having, I was getting really bad dom drop after every session, and I would see them once a month.
Driving home from the session, I would be crying and shaking, and I just didn't know what it was, and that's when I reached out to you.
My pleasure.
My pleasure.
Happy to see you again.
I was so excited that you were willing to share because I think we have both aligned on the fact that your story's an interesting one, and possibly unlike any of my other clients' stories that I'd have to share.
But why don't we start at the beginning of what made you reach out and wanna work with a coach?
Well over two years ago, t- maybe even close to three, I was exploring kink.
I was in a very happy marriage, but I was exploring kink, and my wife at the time said, "If you wanna open up the marriage to explore this, you are more than welcome to." And I use the word explore, but I've been kinky for as long as I can remember.
Back in high school, dabbling here and there, playing in private, but then I kind of internalized it when I got married because I knew that my wife at the time just wasn't interested in it.
We played with toys, went to sex shops, those types of things.
But lucky enough, as an amazing person as she is, she allowed me to open up the marriage so I can start exploring.
And then I started having a consecutive play partner.
I was getting very horrible dom drop after playing with this individual, and I didn't know what it was.
I was searching for kinky things online, and lo and behold, on Instagram, Amanda popped up and I liked her vibe and I messaged her, and we've been sharing the same space ever since.
I do have a question, just for clarification purposes, around when you opened up.
Was it just to explore kink, or was it sexually and to explore kink? Were there any barriers or boundaries put in place?
So for me, it was kink/sexual because for me, at the time, it shared the same space.
It shared the same Venn diagram where I wanted impact, sensation play, maybe a little Cnc, maybe a little ripping of the clothes, and me as a dominant, I wanted that sexual power as well.
Obviously, all enthusiastically negotiated.
So when it came to moving from having a monogamous marriage to a open marriage, the openness came from, again, like I said, having the kink involved and then also the sexual encounters involved as well.
The regular partner that I was having, I was getting really bad dom drop after every session, and I would see them once a month.
Driving home from the session, I would be crying and shaking, and I just didn't know what it was, and that's when I reached out to you.
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