Nothing Is Off the Table: Desire, Pleasure & Sex Without Shame

Well, if there's one small step, 'cause I'm sure, you know, women are like, "Oh, this is great," and you, you, we've talked about, you know, broad things that we can do and, and-

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... and theories, practices.

But what's one small step that every woman can take this week, right now-

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... to improve her intimacy with herself, which is a big topic-

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... or her partner?

I think it, this is gonna sound strange, but it's take a step away from thinking about the sexual piece and spend time with yourself.

You know, that can be sitting outside by yourself.

That can be gently, kindly, compassionately touching yourself, you know? And I don't mean just sexually, I mean just your arm.

Like, just get connected to your body and connected to yourself.

That's paramount.

And when you quiet down and you connect to yourself and your breath and your presence, it is a, it's bonding.

You know? I know that might sound strange to think about bonding to yourself, but we get so disconnected and so outward that we lose track of ourselves.

You know, women come into my office all the time and say, you know, "I don't even recognize myself.

I, I just, you know, I just do this and I do..." And it's, so if there was one thing I would say, just to simply spend time with yourself.

Give yourself permission to do that.

Do not rush.

Let yourself be present.

And I think that's where the ideas come from, the curious, and maybe it's around sex, and it, it likely will be.

It's a very, you know, sex is a, can be a big part of our lives.

And so yeah, just kinda slow down and, and connect and have, you know, work on your relationship with yourself.

I always say, um, well, I say this all the time and I, and I firmly believe it and it leads to this, is that, you know, your first love, we always talk about who our first love was, our first greatest relationship.

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