The Inner Compass Podcast with Vanessa Bennett
Jun 1, 2026 · 26 min · 9 segments
If you’ve ever felt like being fully yourself would make you harder to love, this episode is for you. Vanessa Bennett explores how the **too much** wound and the **not enough** wound are often the…
Vanessa BennettHost
Authentic selfhood might cost me rather my attachment, and that is the wound.
[gentle music] I'm Vanessa Bennett, licensed depth psychotherapist and author, and you're listening to Inner Compass Podcast.
This is a grounded space for real transformation, where healing is treated as both personal work and cultural resistance.
Here, we explore the inner architecture of pattern, codependency, attachment, longing, resentment, desire, shame, and the myths that we inherit about love, worth, womanhood, parenthood, and power, bridging depth psychology with lived experience.
If you have ever felt like being fully yourself would make you harder to love, then this episode is for you.
Or if you've ever been told flat out that you were too emotional, too intense, too loud, too sensitive, too opinionated, too needy, too angry, too ambitious, too direct, too much, this episode is for you because I wanna talk today about the too-much wound.
And I wanna talk about it as something deeper than insecurity because I think it's often tied directly to the not-enough wound, and I think both of them are, are really organized around the same core fear, which is that authentic selfhood threatens belonging.
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Authentic selfhood might cost me rather my attachment, and that is the wound.
[gentle music] I'm Vanessa Bennett, licensed depth psychotherapist and author, and you're listening to Inner Compass Podcast.
This is a grounded space for real transformation, where healing is treated as both personal work and cultural resistance.
Here, we explore the inner architecture of pattern, codependency, attachment, longing, resentment, desire, shame, and the myths that we inherit about love, worth, womanhood, parenthood, and power, bridging depth psychology with lived experience.
If you have ever felt like being fully yourself would make you harder to love, then this episode is for you.
Or if you've ever been told flat out that you were too emotional, too intense, too loud, too sensitive, too opinionated, too needy, too angry, too ambitious, too direct, too much, this episode is for you because I wanna talk today about the too-much wound.
And I wanna talk about it as something deeper than insecurity because I think it's often tied directly to the not-enough wound, and I think both of them are, are really organized around the same core fear, which is that authentic selfhood threatens belonging.
