Bachelor Nation star Michael Allio: Losing His Wife, Raising His Son & Finding Love Again

And you know, it is funny.

You can't take it too seriously.

And when I look at your social media, it looks very intentional.

Like it's not fluffy.

It's not like you're very, you seem to come across as authentic and like truly who you are.

So was that by design? Was that, was it intended in that, in that way? Because, you know, as we look around the world, we see a lot of things.

There's a lot of noise, a lot of fluff, a lot of, you know, I've got to do this this way because this person is doing this.

And, you know, there's a lot of that going on.

But yours is very, it seems very intentional.

So was that, you know, on purpose? Is that?

Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

I mean, I feel like When I was given the platform after being on reality TV, I felt like I never really fit that mold of being an influencer and somebody that is doing that.

And no shade on anybody that's doing that whatsoever.

It just didn't feel natural for me.

And...

One thing that I've noticed just on social media as a whole is that, especially for kids growing up with it, because that's one thing that I'm so grateful that we never had to deal with, Roxy, was growing up in a world of social media where comparison is always at your fingertips and the blueprint and the rule book to being cool and accepted is established by somebody that you'll never meet.

And we've created this copycat culture where trends are chased, where voiceovers are lip synced, where everybody's doing the same exact thing because it's rewarded.

And so when that gets rewarded, being who you are as a person, your true self will always begin to feel like a risk.

And so my fear is that kids will somehow mute their gifts to the world because of a fear of being judged for it.

And so that's a topic that I talk about on social media.

It's a story that's at a theme of one of the seven in my book is have the courage to be able to be yourself because the things that feel awkward right now are the gifts that you are going to be able to offer the world.

And it's what the world needs from you.

Yeah, it's true.

It's true.

And it's, and it is, and it's a challenge every day as we're raising these kids to kind of tell them to drown the noise out, you know, to really sort of, you know, bring it home because not everybody, not all families are on the same page with everything, you know? So it's, it can be really hard to navigate.

And you know, it is funny.

You can't take it too seriously.

And when I look at your social media, it looks very intentional.

Like it's not fluffy.

It's not like you're very, you seem to come across as authentic and like truly who you are.

So was that by design? Was that, was it intended in that, in that way? Because, you know, as we look around the world, we see a lot of things.

There's a lot of noise, a lot of fluff, a lot of, you know, I've got to do this this way because this person is doing this.

And, you know, there's a lot of that going on.

But yours is very, it seems very intentional.

So was that, you know, on purpose? Is that?

Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

I mean, I feel like When I was given the platform after being on reality TV, I felt like I never really fit that mold of being an influencer and somebody that is doing that.

And no shade on anybody that's doing that whatsoever.

It just didn't feel natural for me.

And...

One thing that I've noticed just on social media as a whole is that, especially for kids growing up with it, because that's one thing that I'm so grateful that we never had to deal with, Roxy, was growing up in a world of social media where comparison is always at your fingertips and the blueprint and the rule book to being cool and accepted is established by somebody that you'll never meet.

And we've created this copycat culture where trends are chased, where voiceovers are lip synced, where everybody's doing the same exact thing because it's rewarded.

And so when that gets rewarded, being who you are as a person, your true self will always begin to feel like a risk.

And so my fear is that kids will somehow mute their gifts to the world because of a fear of being judged for it.

And so that's a topic that I talk about on social media.

It's a story that's at a theme of one of the seven in my book is have the courage to be able to be yourself because the things that feel awkward right now are the gifts that you are going to be able to offer the world.

And it's what the world needs from you.

Yeah, it's true.

It's true.

And it's, and it is, and it's a challenge every day as we're raising these kids to kind of tell them to drown the noise out, you know, to really sort of, you know, bring it home because not everybody, not all families are on the same page with everything, you know? So it's, it can be really hard to navigate.