The Happy Engineer | Career Success for Engineering Leadership
Oct 9, 2026 · 30 min · 8 segments
If networking as an engineering manager feels like a second job with no payoff, the size of your network isn't the problem. Who's in your boat is…
You know, and you get to run around and play as a kid on the Lido deck and have a great time, hit the pools, go down the slides.
There's no more first grade, second grade, third grade, all the way through graduation, into college, one semester, a set number of courses.
And then you hit this ocean of decisions and you can go anywhere you want to go and I think about it a picture kind of like this you know here you are on a life raft and okay my life raft looks kind of like a donut it's not very pretty and you got kicked off the cruise ship because you don't get to just ride on your your parents ship anymore or the ship of your college anymore you're on your own and And you've got to row to what I call vision island.
You know, your goal, the vision that you have for your life, where is it that you want to reach? And so you get in this life raft and you start rowing.
But the problem is that it doesn't really matter how hard you paddle by yourself with all of the waves and the winds and the tossing and turning of being in that ocean.
What really matters, it has everything to do with who else is in the boat with you and which way they're paddling.
And so just ask yourself, if I was out at sea, the sea of my career, and I needed to pick who was in that life raft with me, Well, who do I want? And once they're in the boat, what do I want them to do? And the answer is obvious.
And so the reason networking isn't just about knowing more people is because you're not gonna put a thousand people on the life raft.
The truth is there's just a few people who matter the most and that's what we wanna focus on for you.
It's not about filling your cell phone with a thousand more contacts at the next conference or beefing up your LinkedIn network to 30,000, the maximum connections you can have.
It's about curating those critical few who are going to get in the boat and row with you.
You know, and you get to run around and play as a kid on the Lido deck and have a great time, hit the pools, go down the slides.
There's no more first grade, second grade, third grade, all the way through graduation, into college, one semester, a set number of courses.
And then you hit this ocean of decisions and you can go anywhere you want to go and I think about it a picture kind of like this you know here you are on a life raft and okay my life raft looks kind of like a donut it's not very pretty and you got kicked off the cruise ship because you don't get to just ride on your your parents ship anymore or the ship of your college anymore you're on your own and And you've got to row to what I call vision island.
You know, your goal, the vision that you have for your life, where is it that you want to reach? And so you get in this life raft and you start rowing.
But the problem is that it doesn't really matter how hard you paddle by yourself with all of the waves and the winds and the tossing and turning of being in that ocean.
What really matters, it has everything to do with who else is in the boat with you and which way they're paddling.
And so just ask yourself, if I was out at sea, the sea of my career, and I needed to pick who was in that life raft with me, Well, who do I want? And once they're in the boat, what do I want them to do? And the answer is obvious.
And so the reason networking isn't just about knowing more people is because you're not gonna put a thousand people on the life raft.
The truth is there's just a few people who matter the most and that's what we wanna focus on for you.
It's not about filling your cell phone with a thousand more contacts at the next conference or beefing up your LinkedIn network to 30,000, the maximum connections you can have.
It's about curating those critical few who are going to get in the boat and row with you.
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