Dying Made Him Finally Want Connection

And one of those curiosities that I have is this sensation and this feeling and this life trap that we can all get stuck into without really realizing of the freeze response, the stuck response and feeling like we're at the mercy of the situations around us.

And interestingly, it's so often takes a catastrophe before we feel like we can make big decisions, big moves and give ourselves the permission to live the life that we need to.

So I'm curious, why do you think so many successful men wait until everything starts to fall apart before they start to change?

I don't think that we wait.

I don't think anyone is sitting and going, okay, well, I'm going to wait until I have a catastrophe to really do this thing.

I think what men in general have a tendency to do is avoid.

In my instance, I was avoiding everything.

I was avoiding a marriage that was collapsing, a home life that was unraveling that I thought I was going to have.

I was avoiding everything.

A business that had just come out of COVID that was beating me to death.

And I did that through running ultras and excessive exercise and CrossFit competitions.

All of that was my addiction to escape reality.

And then I think there comes a time where you just can't ignore it anymore.

And that's usually the catastrophe, the side swipe, whatever, the big event that hits you in life.

Yeah.

I feel like most people don't really need another wake-up call.

What they need is to have an opportunity to pause and stop ignoring the first thousand that are happening along the way.

What do you feel were some of the wake-up calls or the challenges or the fears that you were running from before life made you stop?

Oh, wow.

I think the biggest one was probably the realization that I was a good husband.

I did all the things I provided.

I sent her on trips.

I did all the stuff that a good husband would do.

And I'm an amazing father.

I'm really a great father.