Dr. Stephen de Wit

Mm-hmm.

And that, I think, is a missing link in a lot of the work that I do and a lot of the people that I talk to.

It's just that self-awareness and that self-esteem for themselves.

Yeah, you're not going to know how to have great sex with a partner if you can't have great sex with yourself.

Exactly.

Is this also linked to this finding your authentic sexual voice phrase that I was reading a couple times?

Yeah, so there's, we'll kind of touch on it, so I'm just going to jump in.

So the sexual freedom system, there's four steps to it.

Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah.

So the

first one is developing sexual self-awareness.

So who the F am I sexually? And so I do work with people in understanding their sexual blueprint.

So what are the messages that you've received throughout your entire life? What are the ones that still serve you and are like, yes, I'm 35 years old and this still really works for me? For

example, what?

Um, it's okay for me to, I'm just keeping it really simple.

It's okay for me to touch myself.

It's okay for me to masturbate.

It's okay for me to do that when I have a partner.

It's okay to do that with my partner.

That's something that's really good.

Right.

Versus a, um, so that would be a good thing.

That's like, yes, I'm going to keep that messaging.

That's good.

That works for me.