Sep 21, 2026 · 37 min · 10 segments
You love the same kids. You probably even want many of the same things for them. So why can you and your spouse look at the exact same parenting moment and see it completely differently? In this…
Kyle WesterHost
Sarah WesterHost
And you can hear us kind of dive into this topic more in depth, okay? But today, Sarah, you started kind of jumping into it where it is – we all come into parenting with such different paradigms, you know? Even marriage with such different paradigms.

Relationships, you know? And I know for us, we came from more faith-based families, right? Where that added its own layer of certain types of roles that we play, things that we should or should not be doing as a husband or wife, right? As a man or woman, all those kind of ideas, right? And yes, there's some early on in our marriage, which we were married about five years, close to six, before we had our first kid.

I really thought we were super equipped to be able to do that, but we're ready to go.

When kids entered the mix, for me, it brought to light a lot of misconceptions I had about parenting.

I think it just brings up things you can't even anticipate sometimes, you know? One of our first arguments we won't get into here was about Santa Claus.

I mean, I wouldn't say, hey, every couple before you have kids, make sure you discuss Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy.

Um, about how you talk to kids and truth and what's truth and all, you know, so, but I think it's such a great example of, you can't anticipate it all.

And you can hear us kind of dive into this topic more in depth, okay? But today, Sarah, you started kind of jumping into it where it is – we all come into parenting with such different paradigms, you know? Even marriage with such different paradigms.

Relationships, you know? And I know for us, we came from more faith-based families, right? Where that added its own layer of certain types of roles that we play, things that we should or should not be doing as a husband or wife, right? As a man or woman, all those kind of ideas, right? And yes, there's some early on in our marriage, which we were married about five years, close to six, before we had our first kid.

I really thought we were super equipped to be able to do that, but we're ready to go.

When kids entered the mix, for me, it brought to light a lot of misconceptions I had about parenting.

I think it just brings up things you can't even anticipate sometimes, you know? One of our first arguments we won't get into here was about Santa Claus.

I mean, I wouldn't say, hey, every couple before you have kids, make sure you discuss Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy.

Um, about how you talk to kids and truth and what's truth and all, you know, so, but I think it's such a great example of, you can't anticipate it all.
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