#16 | Sophie Jayne Miller - Losing Her Mum at 13 & What Grief Actually Looks Like

Thank you for being here. *This episode speaks openly about grief, loss and the death of a parent. If today isn't the day for this one, honour that. We are sending you so much love.* 🤍 This is one of the most special conversations I have ever had not just on Talk Therapy, but in my life. My beautiful friend Sophie Jayne Miller - full time creator, entrepreneur, cookbook author and one of the most genuinely extraordinary humans I know, sat down with me to talk about something very close to her heart. Sophie lost her mum Jayne to breast cancer when she was 13. This episode is about what grief actually looks like. Not the version we are told it should look like - but the real, messy, complicated, sometimes wtf?, sometimes devastating truth of living with loss for over a decade. We get into: - Only knowing your mum through a 13 year old's eyes - and grieving someone you can barely remember - The anger that comes with grief and why it is completely valid - The moments grief sneaks up on you years later - at the supermarket, at your wedding, scrolling social media - Why the anniversary is never the hardest day - it's always the random Thursday - The guilt of being happy, successful and thriving after loss - Why pushing away anything feminine is a response Soph experiences - What support actually looks like - and why avoiding the topic makes it so much worse - How to be a friend to someone grieving without making it weird - Keeping someone's memory alive through the small everyday moments - "I don't need a solution. I just need you to see me." - The last thing Jayne ever said to Soph, and how that impacts her today. This conversation is for anyone navigating grief right now. Anyone who lost someone a long time ago and still feels it in the most unexpected moments. And anyone who has ever wondered how to show up for a friend through loss without saying the wrong thing. Grief is never just sadness. It is everything, all at once, forever. And that is okay. Go follow Soph - @sophiejanemiller across Instagram, TikTok and YouTube. Get her cookbook. Binge her content. She is the best of the best 🤍 Tag me in your stories (@christinapengilly) & share this with someone who needs it 💌 ⁠📲 Instagram 🤍 Personal YouTube ❤️ Talk Therapy YouTube Episodes drop weekly on Wednesdays. See you next week! xx