Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating
Oct 6, 2026 · 16 min · 9 segments
A betrayal can blow up a relationship in a day, but the real damage often reaches back decades. I’m joined by Kayla Crane, a couples therapist who specializes in relationships and relational trauma…
Kayla CraneGuest
Tamara SchoonHost
Well, is there anything I should have asked like that, you know, like common themes or common stuff or like what, what has helped the most or just kind of examples of stuff?
An easy way to really like connect and make improvements is just being vulnerable and with your partner.
maybe happy or sad, but usually any kind of uncomfortable emotion will come out as anger, but that really pushes partners away.
And so if you're in engaging with your partner in any way, and you're feeling angry, it's very likely that that's masking something more vulnerable.
And so I think it's so beneficial if you can like explore that more because likely there's maybe it's covering up some disappointment or fear or shame or something.
But communicating that would usually bring people closer while anger pushes them away.
So if you say, I'm so mad that you did that, that's going to be very different than that really made me feel scared that whatever, when that happened, a lot of times that will engage your partner.
I think it's communication is totally something that can be worked on and can be improved.
And so it's usually not, sometimes people think it's, you know, this is not savable.
This is not something we can change, but most of the things actually can be saved with just some, a little bit more skill, you know, in how to communicate vulnerably.
That's kind of like the root of everything is just being able to communicate how you're actually feeling, not the thought, not the anger, but like the deeper feeling.
Well, is there anything I should have asked like that, you know, like common themes or common stuff or like what, what has helped the most or just kind of examples of stuff?
An easy way to really like connect and make improvements is just being vulnerable and with your partner.
maybe happy or sad, but usually any kind of uncomfortable emotion will come out as anger, but that really pushes partners away.
And so if you're in engaging with your partner in any way, and you're feeling angry, it's very likely that that's masking something more vulnerable.
And so I think it's so beneficial if you can like explore that more because likely there's maybe it's covering up some disappointment or fear or shame or something.
But communicating that would usually bring people closer while anger pushes them away.
So if you say, I'm so mad that you did that, that's going to be very different than that really made me feel scared that whatever, when that happened, a lot of times that will engage your partner.
I think it's communication is totally something that can be worked on and can be improved.
And so it's usually not, sometimes people think it's, you know, this is not savable.
This is not something we can change, but most of the things actually can be saved with just some, a little bit more skill, you know, in how to communicate vulnerably.
That's kind of like the root of everything is just being able to communicate how you're actually feeling, not the thought, not the anger, but like the deeper feeling.
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