Sep 24, 2026 · 1 hr 8 min · 13 segments
Send us Fan Mail "Use your words," we tell our children. But what if they don't have the words yet? In this Fail With Me conversation, clinical psychologist Dr David S. Marcus explains why emotional…
David MarcusGuest
Abhra PalHost
that what I've seen a lot of times is that we jump into parenthood without being emotionally intelligent ourselves.
So you're talking about child development and to be able to show this maturity, to be able to form that emotional language and understand those developmental phases.
But in many cases, are they really emotionally intelligent? This language does not develop organically.
That's because a lot of times parents are bringing in behavior that are not in line with the emotional intelligence principles.
better? In very simple terms, it can be overwhelming for a parent to be the carer, the provider, the teacher, anything the child needs to be.
The parent is troubled by their own emotion, by their own stress, and they do not know how to handle that well.
And by that I'm saying not suppress it, but express it in a way that is not a reaction, but that is a response.
So how does, like, if the parent is not emotionally intelligent, then I am stressed.
Then I am bringing my stress on my child who is not comprehending what is it that I am communicating.
And then the emotional language, the common emotional language that was supposed to be forming that doesn't form.
that what I've seen a lot of times is that we jump into parenthood without being emotionally intelligent ourselves.
So you're talking about child development and to be able to show this maturity, to be able to form that emotional language and understand those developmental phases.
But in many cases, are they really emotionally intelligent? This language does not develop organically.
That's because a lot of times parents are bringing in behavior that are not in line with the emotional intelligence principles.
better? In very simple terms, it can be overwhelming for a parent to be the carer, the provider, the teacher, anything the child needs to be.
The parent is troubled by their own emotion, by their own stress, and they do not know how to handle that well.
And by that I'm saying not suppress it, but express it in a way that is not a reaction, but that is a response.
So how does, like, if the parent is not emotionally intelligent, then I am stressed.
Then I am bringing my stress on my child who is not comprehending what is it that I am communicating.
And then the emotional language, the common emotional language that was supposed to be forming that doesn't form.
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