But what I have seen personally, that those terms are loosely used without the meaning of it fully understood in the context.

Emotional intelligence covers this very wide range of skills.

I try to hone in on exactly what that means.

We can start with, with resilience because that's part of emotional intelligence.

What is resilience? I'm going to give my definition.

Now, obviously that's why we're here, right? Here what I have to say is for these things.

Resilience is the result of a child being able to cope with their own experiences and learn from them and figure out what to do next.

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Now, can you share with us what have you learned about why parents and children sometimes struggle so much to understand each other?

Well, oftentimes they're speaking it in different languages.

I know that sounds odd, but what it actually is is the parents are assuming, silently assuming, that what they experienced when they were children is the same as what their own child is experiencing and so what they do is they say oh I know just how you feel they go into telling the child about how they went through something similar and the child just sits there and listens and the parent feels okay we've talked about I've told you what you can do and now go try it and everything's moving fine and what I have found is that that doesn't work very well.

Like three days later, the child is just as upset about a similar incident that happened that same day.

And the parent is confused because they sit there and say, well, I thought we talked about this.

Well, telling a child that you feel the same way and why and what they should do is not the same as helping them emotionally.

You know, basically it's way too logical, you know, If parenting was that logical, if our children could simply take our advice and do exactly what we say and feel a little better, well, frankly, Ferdinand, people like me would be out of a job.

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