Aug 19, 2026 · 24 min · 11 segments
For the last couple of years it has felt like there has always been another battle to fight. Redundancy. Grief. Leaving the UK. My dad's estate. Complaints with British Gas and Scottish Power. An…
So what do I mean by the battles are ending? Well, let's talk about the first one, the career shift.
The move away from being the salesman, the manager.
Yeah.
the person in the company responsible for selling products and the weekly and monthly and annual targets and all those things that came with it.
Well, that's long gone now.
It's nearly two years.
It's fast approaching two years since I last held a job position.
And then having gone through redundancy, that's all disappearing now.
The massive shift of life, which was, you know, you meet somebody and they ask you, So what is it you do John and you respond and now that doesn't exist anymore.
That's all started to just really become a distant memory.
I don't know what time period you're supposed to go through before you stop kind of thinking about these things or whether you ever truly do but for me right now I've just kind of given up the thought of work.
Work in the traditional sense should at least add in, you know, a 95 job.
I just haven't thought about it.
And so that part of my brain that was consumed by that has became clearer.
Little things that have bothered me before, like the anger or the hurt, especially around the kind of identity shock, that's all pretty much gone now.
I don't really think about it.
And that's my situation.
And then Yvonne was to walk that same path not long after me with her own job, taking a sabbatical from her position and then very quickly finding herself going into initially a two-pay process, moving to a new organisation while she was travelling, whilst we'd left the UK.
And then that quickly became redundancy.
And then she was also going through gardening leave, which would then ultimately become no job.
And now she just seems like she's switched off from that.
She's started to become comfortable with what this looks like for now.
So what do I mean by the battles are ending? Well, let's talk about the first one, the career shift.
The move away from being the salesman, the manager.
Yeah.
the person in the company responsible for selling products and the weekly and monthly and annual targets and all those things that came with it.
Well, that's long gone now.
It's nearly two years.
It's fast approaching two years since I last held a job position.
And then having gone through redundancy, that's all disappearing now.
The massive shift of life, which was, you know, you meet somebody and they ask you, So what is it you do John and you respond and now that doesn't exist anymore.
That's all started to just really become a distant memory.
I don't know what time period you're supposed to go through before you stop kind of thinking about these things or whether you ever truly do but for me right now I've just kind of given up the thought of work.
Work in the traditional sense should at least add in, you know, a 95 job.
I just haven't thought about it.
And so that part of my brain that was consumed by that has became clearer.
Little things that have bothered me before, like the anger or the hurt, especially around the kind of identity shock, that's all pretty much gone now.
I don't really think about it.
And that's my situation.
And then Yvonne was to walk that same path not long after me with her own job, taking a sabbatical from her position and then very quickly finding herself going into initially a two-pay process, moving to a new organisation while she was travelling, whilst we'd left the UK.
And then that quickly became redundancy.
And then she was also going through gardening leave, which would then ultimately become no job.
And now she just seems like she's switched off from that.
She's started to become comfortable with what this looks like for now.
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