Desires, Needs, and Wounds

[gentle music] Hey, Bob, good to see you again and be back with you.

W-we're continuing on in our series here on parenting and children and the wounds and the dynamics that occur between parents and children.

So we spent last time breaking open various parts of the catechism and just trying to understand this, but it came out of those questions that we get often in the podcast.

And we wanted this week to kinda zoom back in and kinda continue to unpack all of this.

And, uh, you had a really cool idea about some content that we could draw out of some of the events that we do for priests, but it, it's, it's really for anybody.

Ju-- The stuff we're gonna talk about is not specific for priests, it's more just being a human, but we share it in that context.

Um, we'll get there in just a second.

Bob, one thing that I was...

I thought would be really helpful as another grounding principle, um, is, you know, we hear these kinda concepts all the time, "I'm made in the image and likeness of God," or, "I'm, I'm made, uh, by God, and I'm made for love," and things like that.

And I think they can start to fall on deaf ears, but it, it's one of those things that if you really wanna know how to thrive as a human being, these very common principles that sometimes become rote are extremely helpful to be able to situate ourselves to then understand why wounding occurs and w-how healing occurs.

And I think that premise is gonna be important for where we go, particularly when we talk about desire.

H-here's one other one that I, I've started to say more recently that I just think is really, really helpful and, and it, it came out of, uh, a talk that Peter Kreeft, Dr. Peter Kreeft did on identity.

And he says this, that, uh, this is a paraphrase, this isn't a direct quote from that talk, but he basically says, "Human beings are the only creature that cannot realize its nature." And here's what he means.

Human beings aren't like a full human when they're created and made, and so they enter into reality, they're born, but they have a whole process to go through before they can fully arrive.

And what is a fully arrived human called? A saint.

And so you start here, but it-- this is the fun thing.

He's like, "A rock is always a rock, and it will always be a rock.

It doesn't have to do anything.

It doesn't lose its rockiness.

It just is rock, rock.

A dog is a dog.

Grass is grass." But he says, "Humans can be inhuman." And that, that is actually a fascinating thing because it's this undergirding principle about why sin matters, because sin is contrary to what it means to be human.

So all of a sudden, you can start to lose your humanity in sin.

Or if you were never given what you were n- what you need, you can never become fully who you were supposed to become.

And so the primary environment that all of this stuff gets worked out, especially when you're young, is in your family.

[gentle music] Hey, Bob, good to see you again and be back with you.

W-we're continuing on in our series here on parenting and children and the wounds and the dynamics that occur between parents and children.

So we spent last time breaking open various parts of the catechism and just trying to understand this, but it came out of those questions that we get often in the podcast.

And we wanted this week to kinda zoom back in and kinda continue to unpack all of this.

And, uh, you had a really cool idea about some content that we could draw out of some of the events that we do for priests, but it, it's, it's really for anybody.

Ju-- The stuff we're gonna talk about is not specific for priests, it's more just being a human, but we share it in that context.

Um, we'll get there in just a second.

Bob, one thing that I was...

I thought would be really helpful as another grounding principle, um, is, you know, we hear these kinda concepts all the time, "I'm made in the image and likeness of God," or, "I'm, I'm made, uh, by God, and I'm made for love," and things like that.

And I think they can start to fall on deaf ears, but it, it's one of those things that if you really wanna know how to thrive as a human being, these very common principles that sometimes become rote are extremely helpful to be able to situate ourselves to then understand why wounding occurs and w-how healing occurs.

And I think that premise is gonna be important for where we go, particularly when we talk about desire.

H-here's one other one that I, I've started to say more recently that I just think is really, really helpful and, and it, it came out of, uh, a talk that Peter Kreeft, Dr. Peter Kreeft did on identity.

And he says this, that, uh, this is a paraphrase, this isn't a direct quote from that talk, but he basically says, "Human beings are the only creature that cannot realize its nature." And here's what he means.

Human beings aren't like a full human when they're created and made, and so they enter into reality, they're born, but they have a whole process to go through before they can fully arrive.

And what is a fully arrived human called? A saint.

And so you start here, but it-- this is the fun thing.

He's like, "A rock is always a rock, and it will always be a rock.

It doesn't have to do anything.

It doesn't lose its rockiness.

It just is rock, rock.

A dog is a dog.

Grass is grass." But he says, "Humans can be inhuman." And that, that is actually a fascinating thing because it's this undergirding principle about why sin matters, because sin is contrary to what it means to be human.

So all of a sudden, you can start to lose your humanity in sin.

Or if you were never given what you were n- what you need, you can never become fully who you were supposed to become.

And so the primary environment that all of this stuff gets worked out, especially when you're young, is in your family.