Oct 5, 2026 · 13 min · 6 segments
09-29-2026 Lesli Doares Learn more about the interview and get additional links here: https://usadailystandard.com/2026/10/05/can-a-man-change-a-marriage-by-himself/ Subscribe to the best of our…
Well, a- and that's actually kind of what I was talking about, about being a leader.
And when men understand and practice good relationship skills, their wives will follow them.
In fact, I actually worked with a client a while back, and he was excited because he hopped on the call and he said, "She's using, she's using the communication skills." And by the way, I never saw her, never talked to her, never...
But because he was consistent about using them, he was modeling them, it completely changed the way their conversations went.
I mean, she knew he was working with me, but she didn't know, she didn't know I existed, but so it wasn't a complete surprise.
But one person changing the pattern, changing their part in the pattern, is going to result in the pattern changing.
Now, we want to change the pattern in a positive direction [laughs] so that she'll go with you.
But one person doing something different means the other person can't keep doing the same thing.
And so that's real- So I mean, and people say, "Oh, it, you need both people." No, actually you don't, but you do need one very committed person willing to not just get the information, but also engage in consistent practice of it.
Uh, be the change, and that really works particularly well, uh, in the most micro of levels, like couples.
It c- or I should say, it can be very scary to be the change because doing something different, we don't, we don't necessarily know what the outcome is going to be.
But if we're using well-researched, well-validated information and skills, we actually increase the chance.
But far too many people believe that relationships are, quote, unquote, "natural," and up to a point they are, but at some point in time, the skill set kicks in.
I mean, walking and running are natural, but very few of us are going to be Usain Bolt without-[laughs] want, you know, without somebody helping us maximize our skills.
Well, a- and that's actually kind of what I was talking about, about being a leader.
And when men understand and practice good relationship skills, their wives will follow them.
In fact, I actually worked with a client a while back, and he was excited because he hopped on the call and he said, "She's using, she's using the communication skills." And by the way, I never saw her, never talked to her, never...
But because he was consistent about using them, he was modeling them, it completely changed the way their conversations went.
I mean, she knew he was working with me, but she didn't know, she didn't know I existed, but so it wasn't a complete surprise.
But one person changing the pattern, changing their part in the pattern, is going to result in the pattern changing.
Now, we want to change the pattern in a positive direction [laughs] so that she'll go with you.
But one person doing something different means the other person can't keep doing the same thing.
And so that's real- So I mean, and people say, "Oh, it, you need both people." No, actually you don't, but you do need one very committed person willing to not just get the information, but also engage in consistent practice of it.
Uh, be the change, and that really works particularly well, uh, in the most micro of levels, like couples.
It c- or I should say, it can be very scary to be the change because doing something different, we don't, we don't necessarily know what the outcome is going to be.
But if we're using well-researched, well-validated information and skills, we actually increase the chance.
But far too many people believe that relationships are, quote, unquote, "natural," and up to a point they are, but at some point in time, the skill set kicks in.
I mean, walking and running are natural, but very few of us are going to be Usain Bolt without-[laughs] want, you know, without somebody helping us maximize our skills.
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