Oct 9, 2026 · 14 min · 7 segments
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And, and a lot of it has to do with the, uh, potential depth of the relationship.
We're giving examples of professional business partners or at least strategic allies, uh, people that you're going to marry to.
Uh, obviously, it's gonna be done in proportion to what the relationship's going to be.
... that was kind of like C.S. Lewis' mantra throughout his entire life, surrounded by people where he was showing up way more than they showed up for him.
Just look at his letters, right? Um, but, but talk a little bit about proportionality.
Yeah, that's a good point because a lot of this is about how deeply you want to get engaged with people.
And, and the deeper you're going to get engaged, of course, the more time you're gonna need to investigate those four areas.
You know, a lot of us, for example, when we hire a company to work for us, um, we, we have to take a little bit of a risk.
You do all your, you, you, you hire a contractor, for example, at your house, and you do all your, you know, your, your due diligence and...
But then after they've served you once, if they have served you well, well, now you have that piece of corroborative evidence that you use over and over again.
You can-- You simply go back to that guy because I know he's been here, he's been in my home, I've seen his work, I know his price point.
And so again, what are we doing? We're assessing the, what, the, the, that corroborative evidence.
And of course, the more deeply you are in a relation, like you-- are you going to invest every dime you own into somebody that you haven't investigated? Well, of course, you're gonna do a lot more, right? Because your investment is bigger.
If it's just somebody you're gonna use to, to trim your trees, but your neighbor's using him, you've never met this guy, the, the risk is lower.
[chuckles] So, so of course, the more that is going to potentially cost you, either through money or relationship or, or risk, the more you're gonna wanna take that four-pronged approach and ask the deeper questions.
And that's why for the most part, I'm hesitant, even in my own home, to do the bigger projects 'cause it-- I know I'm gonna have to vet the contractor in a much deeper way than I would to just fix my fence, okay? That's a very low entry point.
Often what you'll find yourself doing too is beginning with people at low entry points.
Well, if he can fix my fence and he also does the windows, let's see if he can do a window.
And then you go to the next thing, and before long, you've got somebody you trust with the bigger project.
And, and a lot of it has to do with the, uh, potential depth of the relationship.
We're giving examples of professional business partners or at least strategic allies, uh, people that you're going to marry to.
Uh, obviously, it's gonna be done in proportion to what the relationship's going to be.
... that was kind of like C.S. Lewis' mantra throughout his entire life, surrounded by people where he was showing up way more than they showed up for him.
Just look at his letters, right? Um, but, but talk a little bit about proportionality.
Yeah, that's a good point because a lot of this is about how deeply you want to get engaged with people.
And, and the deeper you're going to get engaged, of course, the more time you're gonna need to investigate those four areas.
You know, a lot of us, for example, when we hire a company to work for us, um, we, we have to take a little bit of a risk.
You do all your, you, you, you hire a contractor, for example, at your house, and you do all your, you know, your, your due diligence and...
But then after they've served you once, if they have served you well, well, now you have that piece of corroborative evidence that you use over and over again.
You can-- You simply go back to that guy because I know he's been here, he's been in my home, I've seen his work, I know his price point.
And so again, what are we doing? We're assessing the, what, the, the, that corroborative evidence.
And of course, the more deeply you are in a relation, like you-- are you going to invest every dime you own into somebody that you haven't investigated? Well, of course, you're gonna do a lot more, right? Because your investment is bigger.
If it's just somebody you're gonna use to, to trim your trees, but your neighbor's using him, you've never met this guy, the, the risk is lower.
[chuckles] So, so of course, the more that is going to potentially cost you, either through money or relationship or, or risk, the more you're gonna wanna take that four-pronged approach and ask the deeper questions.
And that's why for the most part, I'm hesitant, even in my own home, to do the bigger projects 'cause it-- I know I'm gonna have to vet the contractor in a much deeper way than I would to just fix my fence, okay? That's a very low entry point.
Often what you'll find yourself doing too is beginning with people at low entry points.
Well, if he can fix my fence and he also does the windows, let's see if he can do a window.
And then you go to the next thing, and before long, you've got somebody you trust with the bigger project.
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