My first time at Hedonism II: what to expect, workshops i’m leading, and how to join Swinkation 2026

And it wasn't gonna be a successful night if people didn't start talking and getting to know each other and, and saying out loud for Christ sakes what they're actually looking for.

And I'll always remember with so much fondness the story of Amelia and a guy.

We were playing the Intrusive Question Game, and the question was like, "What are you looking for tonight?" You know, just as a simple question, "What are you hoping for tonight?" And we went to this guy who said that he wanted to be pegged, which isn't a common answer all the time.

Like, you get it once in a while.

But then we went to Amelia, and her answer was, "I'm looking to peg someone." And I, I make this sound, ding, ding, ding, when I hear, you know, a potential [laughs] match, okay? I'm not being matchmaker.

I'm, I'm facilitating a social game, but I see a match when I see a match, okay? [laughs] And what was funny is he ended up waiting for her while she hooked up with someone else to come and talk to her, and he approached her late in the night and said, "Look, like I've got a strap-on in my locker.

Uh, what do you think?" And they went upstairs, and they did it.

And I was up there watching, and I'm sure that there's a video, uh, about this.

If I can find it, I will put the link because there's always a video or a vlog.

But the Intrusive Question Game is fucking magic, okay? The magic of it is simply saying out loud, A, showcasing your personality to people, your sense of humor, also saying out loud, "What are you looking for?" If you are a really, you know, exciting couple but you're only looking for single women, well, if there's a single man in that circle playing that game with you, he's gonna hear you say that, and he's gonna correctly in my opinion adjust and go look for the people who might actually choose him back, right? And that saves people a lot of time and a lot of wasted energy.

So I love the Intrusive Question Game.

That's gonna be one of the things that I'm leading.

I have proposed a few workshop topics.

I don't know what's gonna be in the final list yet, but one of them is called the Psychology of the Orgy Room.

In summary, what that's gonna be is me speaking for about an hour talking about the human side of what I've seen, you know, helping as an orgy director run gang bangs and orgies and, um, even just, like, one-on-one sexual experiences that I helped facilitate, uh, what I have learned about humans, about touch, about loneliness, about the real people, you know, that, that show up to these clubs on a gang bang night and, like, what's inside of them and, like, what they're there for and what are their vulnerabilities and what are their hopes and dreams.

Uh, one of the biggest things I learned in, in the orgy room is the humanity of men needs to be brought to the surface more.

Uh, and so that's part of my goal because sometimes we can get lost in a fantasy and forget that there's people involved on the other side of that, you know, dick or, or whatever, right? And so we need to, you know, look up.

Look at the face, you know? This is...

I like to say, "This is Bob.

Bob has a mortgage.

Bob has hopes and dreams.

Bob has insecurities too, and Bob just needs a win tonight, you know? So this is Bob.

Like, let's treat Bob like as a human instead of, you know, a supply chain contribution."And so sometimes people get a chuckle out of that, but it's also helpful to remember the humanity of the people involved in the fantasies that you might be participating in.

So that's one of them.

I also have another one called Lessons From a Unicorn.