Sep 15, 2026 · 45 min · 10 segments
In this episode of Let’s Talk Adoption, Kim welcomes back Tim Elder, a three-time adoptive dad and founder of the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast and Community. After experiencing the infant adoption…
And were you, what did you think or feel when you found out that birth father was in the conversation actively? That's not something, it's not the norm.
And I mean, I don't know that we knew what normal was at that point, I guess, but it was weird because I didn't know how to take him, but he was so open and asked us questions and he made it clear what was important to him.
And the fact that we had our faith life wasn't just on display for the profile and the video was important to him, which I really appreciated that it made that connection with them even easier having that faith connection.
fun to have him talk to talk to, because as a guy to guy, it really was a different experience.
A very unique experience because, I mean, there's a reason why when we talk about adoption, everyone's talking about the expectant mom, the woman who is making this adoption plan.
And every now and then an adoptive parent will say, we're hearing so much about birth moms.
What about the birth father's? And I help them understand, well, a lot of these women are really on their own in this plan.
If the birth father was so involved and supportive, she'd probably be willing to parent the baby together with him.
So it is quite exceptional when a birth father wants to be part of the conversation.
And usually what we can get is maybe a little contact information and a willingness to sign.
So it is quite exceptional that your son's birth father really had some values he was looking for that he wanted to make sure aligned the faith values.
The open adoption experience with them has just been a whole nother level of just texting.
I mean, it started out this texting, sending them pictures and videos a lot, and they were texting us too.
And were you, what did you think or feel when you found out that birth father was in the conversation actively? That's not something, it's not the norm.
And I mean, I don't know that we knew what normal was at that point, I guess, but it was weird because I didn't know how to take him, but he was so open and asked us questions and he made it clear what was important to him.
And the fact that we had our faith life wasn't just on display for the profile and the video was important to him, which I really appreciated that it made that connection with them even easier having that faith connection.
fun to have him talk to talk to, because as a guy to guy, it really was a different experience.
A very unique experience because, I mean, there's a reason why when we talk about adoption, everyone's talking about the expectant mom, the woman who is making this adoption plan.
And every now and then an adoptive parent will say, we're hearing so much about birth moms.
What about the birth father's? And I help them understand, well, a lot of these women are really on their own in this plan.
If the birth father was so involved and supportive, she'd probably be willing to parent the baby together with him.
So it is quite exceptional when a birth father wants to be part of the conversation.
And usually what we can get is maybe a little contact information and a willingness to sign.
So it is quite exceptional that your son's birth father really had some values he was looking for that he wanted to make sure aligned the faith values.
The open adoption experience with them has just been a whole nother level of just texting.
I mean, it started out this texting, sending them pictures and videos a lot, and they were texting us too.
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