Frenemies, Gatekeeping And Unspoken Rules

Wow.

Okay.

I'm not necessarily saying this is definitely the case here, but it sounds like we could have a frenemy on our hands.

We have a

little frenemy.

And even if it's not in this case, let's talk about frenemies, right? Because it's the Regina George of it all.

Like they're being

really friendly and saying one thing to your face only to say another when you're not around.

So for example, like, oh my God, I would never have my engagement party so close to your wedding.

Next minute engagement party week after my wedding.

Like, In my opinion, I'm pretty easy breezy with this stuff.

That wouldn't bother me.

And I'm not saying it doesn't bother her too.

It's more so just the, there's no need to say that we're not going to do it if we're going to do it.

I feel like frenemies usually come from like underlying feelings of jealousy or rivalry, but it's usually like a secret competition that you didn't opt in for or like didn't know about.

Yeah, yeah.

What frenemies can look like, like backhanded compliments, being dismissive of your success, but like really eager to point out your failures.

Or then like the more obvious jealousy competition aspect.

yeah yeah have you

had a frenemy oh so many I think I've had frenemies too but like they're not as overt it's like for me in the content space the best example I can give is like when I was first starting out and people thought what I did was really cringe like I would hear people say that they thought what I was posting was really cringe but then they would like posts of like Molly Mae and I'm like okay so we don't mind influencers we just don't want to support our friend because we think it's cringe.

But once things get off the ground a little bit, they're like, oh, what you're doing is so cool.

And I'm like, all right.

Yeah, yeah,

yeah.

There are moments where I've been in these weird competitions with someone but like not willingly, like I've been dragged in and they're really competitive and I'm like – I