Episode 325: Perfectionism, Self-Discipline & Self-Compassion

Hi, Jessica and Tricia.

Love all your content.

What I struggle with is perfection.

In other words, if I don't get it exactly right, then I stop doing it.

I know this is a mindset issue.

So how do I stop beating myself up and learn to appreciate and value what I am doing? Many thanks.

You start there, Jessica.

Is that

from a thriver as well? No.

that oh okay no

okay I was wondering if that's perfectionism around uh doing the exercising and how many you know and food and all of that although maybe I

mean because I send I ask everybody that's on the emails to come back with a question so yeah probably is around that but yeah like that's something I've struggled with all my life um especially up until I think I became aware that that's what was holding me back I would say um up until about maybe a year ago Like, I mean, everything.

So, for example, posting on social media.

That's something that I am working on now.

So I can completely relate to that listener's question.

Yeah.

I went from.

over analyzing and waiting until I was ready to post something, not posting things if I felt I didn't look OK, not posting things if I if I felt the lighting made me look bad, not posting something if I felt that on that particular day, what I didn't what I had to say wasn't really valid.

And also, I never really said what I wanted to say for a long time on social media.

I kind of played it very safe and I kind of just said Here are five ways to get fit today.

Here are three things you can do to be healthy today.

That was kind of my content up until a couple of years ago, give or take a few ones where all the stars aligned and I could be myself, but then the next day no stars would be aligned.

So I can completely relate to that.

What worked for me was to say, I am acting like a perfectionist.

I am acting like somebody who has to get everything in their head, looking all okay because I'm so afraid of being judged.