What If Your “Someday” Never Comes? with Kristy Halvorsen on Her Comeback

Oh, wow.

So many women, especially around midlife, say that they have the someday list.

We tell ourselves, oh, I'll do that someday when the kids are grown or when I retire, like what you were saying, when we have enough money, when the time's right.

Was it just the help things that made you stop waiting for that someday? Is there anything else that you would say about that moment?

Yeah, I think it was one of those blessings in disguise.

Like I wouldn't wish really bad health problems on anyone, but that planted the seed and it made me realize what I really wanted.

I don't know if I actually had a someday list, but it was in the same ballpark.

Here's a great way to describe it.

When you suddenly realize that your someday might never come, you're like, you know what? I don't know if I have a someday.

I want to do it now.

And so that's kind of the feel.

Does that make sense?

Absolutely, it does.

You essentially traded the security that you had in your life and predictability.

for the possibility.

So what was scarier, leaving that life that you knew or just staying in the life that didn't feel like it was yours anymore? How did you manage the fears around all of it? Yeah, there was a

lot of fear in the beginning.

There wasn't after I saw through it.

So one of the biggest fears was that I couldn't live the life that I'm living now by myself.

So the life I knew I had a partner and I had a house and I had all the things you have when you have a home in one spot, you know, where everything's at the grocery store, you have friends, you have all your doctors and your professional things are all in one spot.

So so it was scary to leave all that and just drive off into the unknown.

But.

There was about a two-year period between when I had the idea of living like this to when it actually happened.

So there was this transition period.

And I think the second half of your sentence about, or your question about staying in a life that no longer felt like mine, I think the more time that passed, the more I realized I can't keep living like this.

Oh, wow.

So many women, especially around midlife, say that they have the someday list.

We tell ourselves, oh, I'll do that someday when the kids are grown or when I retire, like what you were saying, when we have enough money, when the time's right.

Was it just the help things that made you stop waiting for that someday? Is there anything else that you would say about that moment?

Yeah, I think it was one of those blessings in disguise.

Like I wouldn't wish really bad health problems on anyone, but that planted the seed and it made me realize what I really wanted.

I don't know if I actually had a someday list, but it was in the same ballpark.

Here's a great way to describe it.

When you suddenly realize that your someday might never come, you're like, you know what? I don't know if I have a someday.

I want to do it now.

And so that's kind of the feel.

Does that make sense?

Absolutely, it does.

You essentially traded the security that you had in your life and predictability.

for the possibility.

So what was scarier, leaving that life that you knew or just staying in the life that didn't feel like it was yours anymore? How did you manage the fears around all of it? Yeah, there was a

lot of fear in the beginning.

There wasn't after I saw through it.

So one of the biggest fears was that I couldn't live the life that I'm living now by myself.

So the life I knew I had a partner and I had a house and I had all the things you have when you have a home in one spot, you know, where everything's at the grocery store, you have friends, you have all your doctors and your professional things are all in one spot.

So so it was scary to leave all that and just drive off into the unknown.

But.

There was about a two-year period between when I had the idea of living like this to when it actually happened.

So there was this transition period.

And I think the second half of your sentence about, or your question about staying in a life that no longer felt like mine, I think the more time that passed, the more I realized I can't keep living like this.