Sep 8, 2026 · 1 hr 33 min · 12 segments
This week we’re Hanging Out with Dr. Nigel Marcellus, who has a PhD in communication and studied Black love, relationships and how we experience love. Nigel has shares how and why he has never been…
Nigel MarcellusGuest
Asia CorrineHost
Grant BlackwellHost
Do you find yourself concerned about when you do get into a relationship with someone, do you feel as though you're gonna lose your own individuality? Something that I say a lot on our podcast-
... is that individuality in a relationship is one of the most important pillars of romance and of love and on, a- and of longevity, because as long as you know yourself-
... you can constantly move through the storms or the happy days with your partner because you're not forgetting who you are.
And so as soon as you forget who you are, what your baseline is, and you just kind of become malleable to the needs or des- desires of your partner-
... is when you're not able to really move forward consciously with conscious effort.
So do you feel as though you're concerned about potentially losing yourself with your performative, uh, tendencies-
Because a lot of things of, like, what I'm telling you, especially, like, struggling with worthiness and stuff, like, when I say I, when I was younger, I'm talking about, like, college all the way to 25, 26.
And then when I was in therapy and I learned more about myself and I got to, like, really focus the thoughts that I'm already thinking in a, like, sh- healthier way-
But every once in a while, like, I'll talk to somebody and I'll get to a place, and this is where we were talking about earlier, where it's like I recognize the two sides-
Do you find yourself concerned about when you do get into a relationship with someone, do you feel as though you're gonna lose your own individuality? Something that I say a lot on our podcast-
... is that individuality in a relationship is one of the most important pillars of romance and of love and on, a- and of longevity, because as long as you know yourself-
... you can constantly move through the storms or the happy days with your partner because you're not forgetting who you are.
And so as soon as you forget who you are, what your baseline is, and you just kind of become malleable to the needs or des- desires of your partner-
... is when you're not able to really move forward consciously with conscious effort.
So do you feel as though you're concerned about potentially losing yourself with your performative, uh, tendencies-
Because a lot of things of, like, what I'm telling you, especially, like, struggling with worthiness and stuff, like, when I say I, when I was younger, I'm talking about, like, college all the way to 25, 26.
And then when I was in therapy and I learned more about myself and I got to, like, really focus the thoughts that I'm already thinking in a, like, sh- healthier way-
But every once in a while, like, I'll talk to somebody and I'll get to a place, and this is where we were talking about earlier, where it's like I recognize the two sides-
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