Episode 80: Why Your Husband Keeps Offering You Wine When You’re Trying to Quit Drinking

🎁 **Get Lindsay's Free Three Wins in 48 Hours Resource** Download “Three Wins in 48 Hours” You’ve told your husband you’re trying to quit drinking. So why does he still offer you wine on Friday night? He may genuinely think he’s helping. The problem is that he may not understand what you’re actually trying to change. There’s a big difference between saying, **“I’m not drinking this week,”** and explaining, **“I’m spending way more time thinking about alcohol than you realize, and I’m trying to change my relationship with it.”** In this episode, Lindsay talks about what happens when your partner sees the drinking but doesn’t see the mental negotiation happening behind it. In This Episode, Lindsay Covers: - Why your husband may think offering you “just one” is supportive - The beliefs about alcohol that can unintentionally reinforce drinking - What your partner may not see about your daily mental battle with alcohol - How Lindsay's own marriage changed when she became more vulnerable - How to communicate what support actually looks like - Why your partner isn't responsible for whether you drink - How practicing new behaviors builds self-trust - Why you don't need a rock bottom to decide you want something different The Conversation to Have Instead of simply saying, “I'm not drinking,” try explaining what’s actually happening: **“I need you to understand why this is important to me. I keep deciding I don't want to drink, and then I change my mind later. I'm spending much more time thinking about alcohol than you probably realize.”** Then tell your partner what would actually help. Maybe that means not offering you wine, not telling you that you've earned a drink, or simply asking what you need when you're struggling. Your partner can't support what they don't understand. Building Self-Trust Changing your relationship with alcohol isn't just about removing wine from your evening. It's about practicing new ways to cope, relax, celebrate, socialize, and respond to stress. Every time you make a decision you actually want to make and follow through, you create evidence that you can trust yourself. You don't have to solve everything today. Start with one decision. **I said I was going to do this — and I did it.** 💬 **Ready for More Support?** Learn more about working with Lindsay through coaching If this episode made you think, **“Oh my God, my husband does this,”** send it to a woman who needs to hear it. **You have better things to think about than drinking, my friend.** Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  - 🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call - 👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching - 📱Follow along on Instagram - 📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletter **And remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.**  *Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg* Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.