#283- ROCD Makes Me Think My Partner Will Leave Or Cheat

right, Joey, thank you so much for sending in that question.

Again, I love these questions.

The folks who send in questions to this podcast, I appreciate so much for putting yourself out there and the vulnerability it takes to message me with this question and to kind of put your voice or your situation out there.

And it means a lot to me.

It means a lot to other listeners out there.

I hope it's been clear that I'm not making up all these questions.

I can't make up all of these questions.

So these are real people in the universe.

Well, usually on Earth, I would say.

But people out there who have these questions, because if you have that question, there's someone else out there who has that question, too.

So... joe's question i think is is a great one and so my my stance on relationship ocd and again y'all can tell me if i'm wrong but this is the way that i've typically been treating relationship ocd i think it's kind of this combination of things right it's this combination of genuine relationship concerns or problems or kerfuffles or snafus that are dealt with through ocd means now Of course, OCD will often take over, and the rumination and obsession and the what-ifs and the worst-case scenarios are obviously going to be at play.

But the reality is there's no perfect relationship out there.

I'll say mine included, right? But there's no perfect relationship out there.

Everyone has things to work on and things to improve on.

Every person within relationships are going to have some insecurities.

They're going to have some deficits.

They're going to have some ways that they're not quite meeting with their partner in just the right way.

So there are going to be – and that's relationship stuff.

But then OCD jumps in and says, well, because of this – What if something else happens? I don't want that to happen.

Let me ruminate, check, consider, and evaluate, ask for reassurance, right? Go down the rabbit hole.

All of that to prove, disprove, find out, discover, ensure something, right? So there's got to be the combination of these things.

So to a certain degree, what I'll be doing today is a little bit of validation of genuine relationship concerns because...

I want to approach this, I think, in reasonable ways as best I possibly can.

And I try to do this with the clients in my office.

We want to look at it with relationship OCD.