Why You Keep Overthinking Every Decision

So it's interesting, uh, we were at a event once, so this woman raises her hand, and she's like, "Okay, so I get what you're saying, and where I'm at right now is I would like to feel this feeling, this flow state." I said, "How often do you think you feel it? If, if we're talking about a hundred percent of the time, how often do you feel it?" She's like, "Six percent?" I said, "Okay, and what would be your optimal?" She said, "Like sixty percent." And I said, "Wait, you would be happy with feeling like shit forty percent of the time? You're okay with that?" And I'll show you where I'm going with this because as you're speaking, I've been in so many rooms like this.

You've been in so many rooms like...

You've already read every book.

You could be up here.

You could teach this, right? And then you ask yourself, "So why am I not integrating this? Why am I not applying it?" Two reasons.

Number one, you don't really believe it's actually possible.

There's a part of you that believes, "No, this is as good as it is," okay? That's number one.

You've accepted a low standard.

Number two, you're addicted to feeling like shit.

And it's interesting because, like, the other day, I was, like, getting this, like, pain in my stomach, right? It was, like, coming and going, whatever it was, and I called my friend, then I called another friend, and she's like, "You know what? It's probably this, this, and this, but go to the GI doctor." And so I go...

Boy, was he hot.

He was also...

I'm, like, calling in all these, like, amazing, hot as fuck doctor.

Okay.

Okay, I need you to stop being so reasonable about the life that you want.

Seriously.

You didn't come here to spend your whole life looking at what currently exists and asking, "Okay, but what can I realistically have?" That's backwards.

Your desire is the beginning.

The love, the impact, the money, the business, the freedom, the idea that you keep thinking about, the version of you who's fully using her gifts and is so freaking alive in her life.

If you can feel it, if you can keep coming back to it, pay attention.

Because maybe the problem isn't that you don't know what you want.