Private Investigator: The Clients I Refuse to Work For

How does a private investigator catch a cheating partner? And what happens when the person hiring him is hiding the real reason?Nathan Hoole spent 20 years in the police before building Dolos Investigations. In this episode of Department of Talking Sense, the former detective sergeant takes us inside surveillance, suspected affairs, deceptive clients and the investigations he refuses to take on.We explore the changes in behaviour that can raise suspicions, why evidence matters more than assumptions, and what happens when clients refuse to accept that their partner may be faithful.Nathan also shares how an apparently straightforward investigation became something far more concerning, why tracing someone can put them at risk, and the emotional weight of investigating traumatic cases.This conversation goes beyond catching cheaters. It asks who you can trust, what finding the truth actually costs, and when an investigator needs to walk away.IN THIS EPISODE:• What television gets wrong about detective work• Investigating affairs without jumping to conclusions• Clients who conceal their real motives• The line between surveillance and stalking• Gaslighting and the impact of discovering an affair• Why clients can accidentally ruin an investigation• Dangerous tracing requests and protecting people at risk• The cases Nathan refuses to work onCHAPTERS:00:00 Meet Nathan Hoole02:31 Choosing a private investigator05:06 Diary of a Private Investigator06:23 From policing to private investigation09:50 What detective shows get wrong12:28 A job that became more dangerous15:10 Do clients really want the truth?19:08 When surveillance becomes stalking23:24 A client’s story starts to unravel30:04 The risks of tracing someone34:50 The emotional weight of police work43:48 Coercive control and abusive relationships45:35 Evidence, assumptions and detective work52:51 Technology and surveillance55:38 Suspected affairs and changes in behaviour58:07 Emotional affairs and discovering the truth62:05 How clients can ruin an investigation65:33 Honour-based violence and tracing requests70:51 The jobs Nathan refuses76:50 Private information and crossing the line78:32 Final question and where to find NathanFIND NATHAN:Dolos Investigations: https://dolosinvestigations.co.uk/Diary of a Private Investigator: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...Would you rather discover a painful truth or keep living with uncertainty? Tell us why in the comments.Subscribe to Department of Talking Sense for conversations that challenge assumptions and explore the stories behind the headlines.Content note: This episode discusses domestic abuse, honour-based violence and infant loss. Changes in behaviour alone do not prove infidelity.#PrivateInvestigator #Infidelity #DepartmentOfTalkingSense