301. How To Navigate Jealousy In Dating & Relationships w/ Ally Iseman

What if jealousy wasn’t a sign that something is wrong with you or your relationship, but an emotion you could actually learn from? In this episode, I’m talking with relationship coach Ally Iseman about why jealousy gets such a bad reputation, what it’s actually trying to tell us, and how to work through it without blaming your partner or shaming yourself. Ally breaks down the different types of jealousy, including insecurity, comparison, fear of abandonment, distrust, and retroactive jealousy, and explains why learning to tolerate discomfort is one of the most important relationship skills you can build. We’re getting into how to... - The difference between jealousy and envy - Figure out whether your jealousy is about you, your relationship, or something from your past - What to do when jealousy comes up - Work through retroactive jealousy - Ask your partner for reassurance without making them responsible for your emotions - Handle it when your partner is jealous of *your* past - Understand the difference between boundaries, rules, and relationship agreements - Stop trying to force certainty or commitment before you actually know someone - Build the relationship skills that help you navigate uncomfortable conversations - Decide what to do when the person you’re dating handles a situation in a way that completely turns you off Plus, Ally and I answer a dating dilemma from a listener who showed up to a museum and caught the guy she was seeing on a date with another woman after he told her he was sick. **CONNECT WITH ALLY** on Instagram **THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS** 😎 Zenni: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping on orders over $65 **MORE FROM DATING INTENTIONALLY** Date Tracker: Start your 7-day free trial! (iOS link) Take the quiz: What's holding you back in dating? Say hi on Instagram Submit a dating dilemma Book a 1:1 with me See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.