Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Kink for Dummies’ co-author Jack Harrison-Quintana and talk making a better world through kink, finding your inner kinkster, marrying your best friend, the variants of jealousy in open relationships and so much more

Judson mourns the death and celebrates the life of his father-in-law. Inspired by one of his husband’s hookups, Brian attempts a night of kink at home and stirs up much more drama than intended. The Hookup of the Week finds our listener arriving at the airport and running into his year-long Grindr crush, who then becomes quite the hands-on tour guide for the trip that follows. Brian and Judson are then joined by co-author of *Dads and Daddies* Book Club selection, *Kink for Dummies*, Jack Harrison-Quintana. Jack tells Brian and Judson how he first met and became close with his co-author Jaime M. Grant, and how the two came to write a book about kink for Wiley, publisher of the entire slate of *For Dummies* books. Jack shares his early kink origins on both personal and professional planes, he asks Judson about his history with kink and drugs, and discusses whether or not Brian’s affinity for group and public sex makes him a kinkster. Jack also explores whether or not kinks can exist without personal shame or judgement of the community at large, how the tenets of the kink community should be guiding principles for all of humanity, how couples can communicate about uneven kink desires, how not all kinks appear sexual, removing shame from the need for erectile dysfunction medication, and so much more. Jack then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in a newly opened relationship who wants help finding sex parties, but also has concerns about safety and comfort with other attendees’ behavior. Find Jack Harrison-Quintana on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/j\c\h\_q/  Get *Kink for Dummies* by Jaime M. Grant and Jack Harrison-Quintana at https://bookshop.org/p/books/kink-for-dummies-jack-harrison-quintana/fb56c7928951eda3   Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to [dadsanddaddies@gmail.com](mailto:dadsanddaddies@gmail.com) Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.