Aug 1, 2026 · 54 min · 12 segments
In this moving episode, Ashley welcomes her friend Aubrey Pavlacka to share the story of her daughter, Timber Kai. What began as a joyful babymoon in Kauai quickly became a devastating journey through…
Aubrey PavlackaGuest
Ashley OpligerHost
i'm so so sorry i remember reading all of your blogs and we will link those so that people can read your whole story and the day by day that you shared on there and i remember the sweet pictures of you and justin holding her i just want you to know mom to mom like when i hear your story i just see the resilience and the unconditional love of a mom And I hope you know this and I think you do, but you did everything you possibly could have done for her.

I mean, to lay in a bed backwards basically with your head down and to just be fighting those contractions and advocating for her and doing literally everything that you could possibly do.

I just want you to know that you're an amazing mom and that you did everything that you could have done.

And that's something that I feel very passionate about saying to all of the moms listening, because so many times in our support groups we'll have moms say, I wish I would have done this differently or I shouldn't have.

And the thing that I always tell people is that if you could have saved your baby, you would have.

There are things outside of our control, which is the hard part about being a human and especially being a mom, because we have that innate desire and instinct inside of us to try to protect our babies.

And I just hope you know that you did everything inside of you for her and that she is so blessed to have you as a mom.

And as you said, it was sad to think that you had to come back with your baby cremated and have to fill out paperwork.

So you get back home and your life is just turned upside down and you're devastated.

What were those first weeks and months like, especially in your faith journey? Because you had been walking with Jesus before and you had prayed to him and been asking for this miracle and had all these people reading your blog and praying.

And then the prayers didn't seem like they were being answered the way that we wanted them and the way that you wanted them.

So would you just share what that looked like in your faith journey as you got back home?

i'm so so sorry i remember reading all of your blogs and we will link those so that people can read your whole story and the day by day that you shared on there and i remember the sweet pictures of you and justin holding her i just want you to know mom to mom like when i hear your story i just see the resilience and the unconditional love of a mom And I hope you know this and I think you do, but you did everything you possibly could have done for her.

I mean, to lay in a bed backwards basically with your head down and to just be fighting those contractions and advocating for her and doing literally everything that you could possibly do.

I just want you to know that you're an amazing mom and that you did everything that you could have done.

And that's something that I feel very passionate about saying to all of the moms listening, because so many times in our support groups we'll have moms say, I wish I would have done this differently or I shouldn't have.

And the thing that I always tell people is that if you could have saved your baby, you would have.

There are things outside of our control, which is the hard part about being a human and especially being a mom, because we have that innate desire and instinct inside of us to try to protect our babies.

And I just hope you know that you did everything inside of you for her and that she is so blessed to have you as a mom.

And as you said, it was sad to think that you had to come back with your baby cremated and have to fill out paperwork.

So you get back home and your life is just turned upside down and you're devastated.

What were those first weeks and months like, especially in your faith journey? Because you had been walking with Jesus before and you had prayed to him and been asking for this miracle and had all these people reading your blog and praying.

And then the prayers didn't seem like they were being answered the way that we wanted them and the way that you wanted them.

So would you just share what that looked like in your faith journey as you got back home?
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