Oct 2, 2026 · 46 min · 12 segments
Dr. Gary Chapman is known for the 5 Love Languages. He loves connecting couples and singles with the love of God. And he’s not afraid to tackle the real life struggles you’re facing. On this…
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And be aware, next week Dr. Kathy Cook is going to address resolving conflict between parents and adult children, so that's coming up in one week.
We've had family meetings many times, and told her where we stand, and let her talk as well, and tried to set boundaries, and she will not respect us.
If she does, it only lasts for a month or so, then she goes right back to the way it was.
She tries to mother our kids, and she tries to mother us and tell us what we should do.
I have prayed, and the Lord has softened my heart, and then she goes [laughs] right back to doing what she was doing-
Well, I say first of all, I identify with what she's saying, and I have empathy for her and her husband.
[laughs] Okay? I think sometimes mother-in-laws forget that they have an adult child who is married and perhaps has children, uh, as in this case.
And so they just keep on mothering, you know, they keep on mothering, keep on being a parent.
I've written a book on that and Kathy Cook has written a book on that, that I think you might find helpful.
You know, put it in her hands and s- say, "I heard about this book," and g- okay.
But I do think, uh, it really, I think your husband is in the best position to, uh, communicate how the two of you feel, uh, with her, because you, you've tried the, the, you know, the family things before, they haven't worked.
Uh, but for you to be the one who, uh, the, the wife to be the one who is verbalizing this to her mother-in-law, I think just creates a barrier between the two of you.
The, your husband has a relationship with her that you don't have, you know, it's his mother.
So I'd say let him be the spokesman, uh, to share whatever he, the, the two of you agree needs to be shared.
And be aware, next week Dr. Kathy Cook is going to address resolving conflict between parents and adult children, so that's coming up in one week.
We've had family meetings many times, and told her where we stand, and let her talk as well, and tried to set boundaries, and she will not respect us.
If she does, it only lasts for a month or so, then she goes right back to the way it was.
She tries to mother our kids, and she tries to mother us and tell us what we should do.
I have prayed, and the Lord has softened my heart, and then she goes [laughs] right back to doing what she was doing-
Well, I say first of all, I identify with what she's saying, and I have empathy for her and her husband.
[laughs] Okay? I think sometimes mother-in-laws forget that they have an adult child who is married and perhaps has children, uh, as in this case.
And so they just keep on mothering, you know, they keep on mothering, keep on being a parent.
I've written a book on that and Kathy Cook has written a book on that, that I think you might find helpful.
You know, put it in her hands and s- say, "I heard about this book," and g- okay.
But I do think, uh, it really, I think your husband is in the best position to, uh, communicate how the two of you feel, uh, with her, because you, you've tried the, the, you know, the family things before, they haven't worked.
Uh, but for you to be the one who, uh, the, the wife to be the one who is verbalizing this to her mother-in-law, I think just creates a barrier between the two of you.
The, your husband has a relationship with her that you don't have, you know, it's his mother.
So I'd say let him be the spokesman, uh, to share whatever he, the, the two of you agree needs to be shared.
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