25 | Nicole - Plus Size Pregnancy at 40, Type 2 Diabetes, Stalled Induction, C-Section

worked out for the best I really appreciate you sharing the story kind of from the beginning with type 2 diabetes and the journey of it of becoming pregnant and kind of the stigma around the doctors and their opinions on everything and the fact that you were able to stay strong and I think the biggest message from your story is not to be afraid to ask why because if doctors are trying to push something on you where you're kind of feeling iffy in your gut be like well tell me why like is it medically necessary is x y and z gonna happen so I think that's a huge learning lesson for others out there

like you know don't be afraid to push back on the doctors like if there's more doctors in the practice try a different OB in there like says that like we I had my main one but then I also saw I think like that five others that were in there and some of them I love I loved two of them I was then fine with those ones and the other other three I was like no we we didn't vibe together like that they were the ones like the hardcore pushing for the super early inductions for the c-sections like well you're not listening to me whereas you know the other male I had, he was like, yeah, he's like, we can, if I'm doing, he was like, we can definitely try to give you vaginal birth.

That's not a problem.

And then the third lady, you know, she was the one that, that did convince me to go with an earlier induction, but she's like, we can try the vaginal.

It's like, that's not a problem.

It's like, we just want to make sure that you and baby are healthy.

And like that approach means the world to like, to me as a pregnant person, as an assuming mom, like it was more of the caring effect, not just like, well, X, Y, and Z, we need to do this.

Like, it's just, I was like, this is not very black and white.

Like it's more that empathy, the more that caring.

And like, so if you don't have that with the doctors, like if there's another doctor in the office, try another doctor.

Like they won't get offended.

Yeah, like that is your experience and pregnancy and your body and your baby.

So if you're not vibing or something's going on, don't be afraid to find a different care provider.

I know that can be scary, but it's your experience and you don't want that rain cloud just kind of hanging over you the whole time.

Definitely.

And then

I will say, so I talked to my doctor at my two-week post-op and I asked about a second child because we do want to try for another one.

And he did say he's like, and that one, he's like, we can try a VBAC.

He's like, so he still remembers.

I want to try vaginal.

He's like, so we can try vaginal again.

He's like, if things align differently, he's like, we'll try for vaginal again with you.

I was like, so he is already there.

supporting you know what I want to do even though I've had a c-section he's like we can find ways around them like thank you so having a good having a good doctor is makes like the world of difference I know it does like I got really lucky to have the OB that I did have that he was the one that delivered and still afterwards he's like no you had a c-section but you want another one he's like yep go ahead and try you know when you want to try so I said it'd be you know about the year mark probably um, like 11 months, he's like, yeah, go ahead and try again.

He's like, it's time for your C-section to heal like fully.