52: Why Your Little Traumas Are More Dangerous Than Big Ones ft. Victoria Lane

In this episode, Dr. Brook sits down with her dear friend Victoria Lane, founder of Elephant Buffet Coaching, to unpack one of the most overlooked conversations in the wellness space: micro traumas and why they may be quietly doing more damage than the big ones we can actually name. Victoria brings a unique perspective to this conversation. With seven years of law enforcement experience and three years of leadership and business coaching, she has sat with people in their darkest moments and learned how to process trauma, both personally and professionally. She is also the youngest of eight children, which shaped her understanding of identity, resilience, and choosing to rise above a victim mentality. Together, Dr. Brook and Victoria explore how big T and little t traumas affect the nervous system differently, and why little t traumas tend to compound quietly over time in ways that slowly erode your sleep, your self-control, your resilience, and your overall sense of self. Victoria explains how every trauma, large or small, triggers an adrenaline dump that marks the amygdala and sends cortisol surging through the body, and why if the nervous system never gets the chance to process and release, it becomes the body's broken messenger system. Victoria also shares vulnerably about losing her mother thirteen years ago and why grief deserves its own category entirely, neither big T nor little t, but something far more layered and ongoing. The conversation turns toward the role of the Holy Spirit in nervous system healing, how body awareness and discernment work together, and why so many women are living deeply disconnected from their bodies in an era that has never had more wellness information available. **Spoiler:** dopamine-driven scrolling is doing more damage than most of us want to admit. Victoria closes by walking listeners through the heart behind Elephant Buffet Coaching, helping people see that the elephant in the room, the overwhelming goal, the stuck feeling, the unprocessed trauma, is actually the size of a peanut. And yes, her elephant's name is Peanut. If you have been feeling like your healthy habits are not producing results, or like you are less resilient than you used to be, this episode will help you understand why, and what to do about it. Connect with Victoria: Instagram: @elephantbuffet\_coaching Free consult call linked in her bio Your body has been talking to you your whole life. On July 11, join me live for Body of Wonder and learn how to decode the signals behind your symptoms so you can stop guessing and start understanding. Save your spot: https://os.drbrooksheehan.com/workshop ✨ Your body has been trying to tell you something. Find out what it's saying with the free 30-second **Body Signal Decoder Assessment.** Pick your signal, get your personalized guide straight to your inbox, and finally start making sense of what's going on inside. **Get it here:** os.drbrooksheehan.com/decoder 🎧 And if you caught the mention of the **Talk to Me, Body** affirmation card deck during the episode, here's where to grab yours. 63 scripture-anchored cards to help you trust the body God designed for you. **Get yours here:** drbrooksheehan.com/talk-to-me-body/ 📱 Come say hi on Instagram: @drbrooksheehan ⭐ If this episode spoke to you, **would you take a second to leave a five-star review on** Apple **or** Spotify**?** It helps more women find this show. And more women learning to listen to their bodies is exactly why I do this.