#93 – Nobody Warned Me About 35

This week, we’re talking about what 35 does to a woman’s body and mind and why nobody warns you: ADHD symptoms that showed up out of nowhere, menopause creeping into the 40s, and doctors who say nah you good while your friend is finding out on TikTok what her old OBGYN never told her. Whether you’re wondering if it’s ADHD or menopause, fighting a doctor for a decision about your own body, or just trying to figure out why everything got harder after 35, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen. ## Acast Show Notes • Jocelyn asked her psychiatrist if ADHD can just show up, and what she said about women and menopause • Jade’s theory: at 35 everything goes downhill, wisdom teeth included • Why menopause is the biggest life event women never talk about • Hysterectomy does not automatically mean menopause, and why “total” does not mean what you think • Menopause is showing up in the 40s and doctors are still saying nah you good • The TikTok about ten years on a birth control shot and the OBGYN who never said a word • Why Jocelyn wants a woman handling her reproductive health • The doctor who told Jade she was infertile and never put it in her chart • Why paying off your car early can drop your credit score 30 points • A lioness and her cub loose in Indiana, and where is the daddy • The sister who asked for three hours of babysitting and flew to Miami • Low maintenance vs high maintenance vs low investment friendships, defined • The high school friend who showed up at a boyfriend’s house over two missed calls • The one question to ask at the start of every relationship • Art After Dark, release forms, and who actually shows up for you • Hot yoga, guided meditation, and why counting to ten is not clearing your mind • The journals Jocelyn found and the referral she still has not called • Ten years of asking for a hysterectomy and why autonomy is supposed to be the rule • Nobody to take care of but me, and Jade’s future orange cat **Timestamps:** 00:00 Back on the meds 01:30 Three credit cards paid off 02:00 The lender said don’t pay off the car 02:50 The Trax and the 30 points 04:00 Can ADHD just show up? The psychiatrist answers 05:30 At 35 everything goes downhill 06:30 Why nobody talks about menopause 07:30 Hysterectomy does not mean menopause 09:00 The anesthesiologist and the word “total” 10:30 Menopause is creeping into the 40s 11:00 Doctors saying nah you good 12:00 Male OBGYNs and life experience 12:45 The doctor said infertile and never wrote it down 13:30 A lioness is loose in Indiana 16:30 Can a lion break down a door 17:45 The saline recall 21:15 Story time: watch my sister’s kids for a couple hours 22:30 Miami owes me nothing 24:30 Who was wrong 26:30 Babysitting the whole family 29:30 Anybody can get cut 31:15 Low maintenance, high maintenance, low investment 32:30 The TikTok that started it 35:00 The friend who showed up at the boyfriend’s house 36:30 What do you want from this relationship 40:30 Art After Dark 42:45 Do you still need a release form 47:00 Who actually showed up 50:30 The $1,000 owl painting 51:30 Dot painting and yet another hobby 52:15 Hot yoga 53:30 Guided meditation has too many steps 56:30 The journals 58:45 The referral nobody called 60:30 Just let me reschedule by text 61:45 Redoing the whole wardrobe 63:30 Why can’t women just choose a hysterectomy 67:00 Ten years of asking 68:15 Nobody to take care of but me 69:30 Jade wants an orange cat 70:30 Wrap up * * * Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.