Jul 9, 2026 · 37 min · 12 segments
Most people give up too easily and the people around you, the Reddit threads venting, the "this is just normal" advice from doctors and therapists, are actually reinforcing the belief that you're…
Stephanie GanowskiHostBut you have to be cautious of where you're spending your attention and your time, because if you're in a thread of men who are feeling resentful and complaining, then that's going to get in your head.
It must be true that most women don't want to have sex with their husbands.
It must be true that my erection isn't going to work once I'm past the age of 50.
It must be true since my therapist told me that pressure is normal around sex.
Like, I mean, it's my therapist, right? So like we put people on pedestals when we're a little lost.
And it makes sense, right? Because if we're feeling lost around a certain area of our life, we're going to look for guidance.
We're going to look for people who we can admire, people we respect and are experts on that thing.
So there is still this part of you, a big part of you that has to trust yourself and you have to trust your gut and take everything with a grain of salt, you know, because you don't know how uncomfortable your doctor is talking about sex.
That's why they just shove pills in your face and they don't have a sit down conversation about the thing you're struggling with, right? Most therapists are not comfortable talking about sex.
They study human behavior and most of their studies do not have anything to do with sex.
It's basically you just have to recognize that everyone has their own limiting beliefs.
You know, anxiety is normal just because a lot of people have it, just because it's very common in our culture in America, especially to talk about anxiety and to admit that you have it.
But you have to be cautious of where you're spending your attention and your time, because if you're in a thread of men who are feeling resentful and complaining, then that's going to get in your head.
It must be true that most women don't want to have sex with their husbands.
It must be true that my erection isn't going to work once I'm past the age of 50.
It must be true since my therapist told me that pressure is normal around sex.
Like, I mean, it's my therapist, right? So like we put people on pedestals when we're a little lost.
And it makes sense, right? Because if we're feeling lost around a certain area of our life, we're going to look for guidance.
We're going to look for people who we can admire, people we respect and are experts on that thing.
So there is still this part of you, a big part of you that has to trust yourself and you have to trust your gut and take everything with a grain of salt, you know, because you don't know how uncomfortable your doctor is talking about sex.
That's why they just shove pills in your face and they don't have a sit down conversation about the thing you're struggling with, right? Most therapists are not comfortable talking about sex.
They study human behavior and most of their studies do not have anything to do with sex.
It's basically you just have to recognize that everyone has their own limiting beliefs.
You know, anxiety is normal just because a lot of people have it, just because it's very common in our culture in America, especially to talk about anxiety and to admit that you have it.
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