BEST OF: Transitioning from Peer to Leader: Best Tips for Leading Friends

right, I'll start because it's the non-management role.

It's hard for some people because it goes from someone that you could really shoot the shit with.

Like you could gossip, you could talk about what you heard and all these different things about work.

And the minute they become management, it really becomes you have to be careful what you say because otherwise you're being a tattletale or snitch.

And it also means you have to own, excuse my language, your fuck-ups.

So because this person, if they're your friend, they know the stuff that you have done and will do.

Things that you'll do to try to get around a micromanager they had before.

So it's just...

You're still friends with that person, but you know you can't act the way you did with previous management.

Even if you were following the rules, sometimes you bend them and I love to gossip and you just can't do that anymore.

See, and that's a

fascinating, that's a fascinating take because I feel like most people actually feel the other way of like, oh, my friend's now the boss.

So like, they're going to hook me up.

And cause I've seen that dynamic.

So you're like, so that I love that.

That's the perspective you have is like, oh, now I'm going to get called on my shit.

What about you, Jerry? Cause I can see you chomping, like ready to go.

Well, it's interesting because I've seen both sides of that.

I've been the employee who had a peer that was elevated above and then was reporting to a friend.

And I've also been the friend who got promoted and elevated over.

And I've seen both sides of that coin.

I've had some of my peers that felt that the floodgates could open because I was now their supervisor and that they could get things pushed through faster, things that they wanted.

They could talk about other people and it made it easier for them to, I guess, be unrestricted.

And then

I've seen it go the other direction where to Aaron's point, they're like, uh, yeah, they know where all my skeletons are and they know exactly how I, I worked and kind of weaseled my way around company policies or what the company needed me to do.