UncommonTEEN for Christian Teen Girls
Jul 27, 2026 · 19 min · 8 segments
Have you ever known exactly what needed to be said... and said nothing? This week, Rosie, Kayleigh, and Sadie join Coach Jamie for an honest conversation about the difference between speaking up and…
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Now on a more serious note, what is the difference between speaking up and starting drama?
I think it's your intent behind it because when you speak up, Or even like...
let's not do this for these reasons with love behind it versus like, oh, you always do this and you always do that and you say this and it's just so annoying.
I feel like that's more drama, obviously, than trying to correct something with love.
for either someone else's benefit or their benefit.
I would say too, the way that you speak up.
I've seen it happen where someone doesn't like the way that someone else is gossiping or whatever, but then they gossip about them.
gossiping just to someone
else like do you
know how that person gossips all the time but there you go you're doing it like kayla was saying if it involves one person then you go directly to that person you don't need to talk to other people about it because that causes drama i feel like drama and gossip pretty much go together most of the time so go directly to the person lovingly if you need to cool off a little bit before you confront them do that pray for them Because you can't hold grudges and pray for someone at the same time.
Like, it doesn't work.
So pray for them first and then just seek the Lord on how you can respond to them.
And then if you're approaching it that way, it's pretty hard for drama to start.
The Bible talks about in Ephesians 4 verse 15, it says to speak the truth in love.
And then Ephesians 4 29, it says, let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as good for building up as fits the occasion that it may give grace to those who hear.
And so when we think about those things, like we build others up, we speak the truth in love.
It's for their good.
If they're doing something wrong, then yeah, it's for their good that you confront them and you say, hey, you shouldn't do that.
I've been noticing this.
But yeah, it's like, do you love them? And that's why? Or is it because...
you're angry at them, that they did something to you and now you're hurt and so now you need to respond with anger, but it's not that way.
It should be love.
And I think there's that balance there because there has to be truth, but then there's also love at the same time.
Now on a more serious note, what is the difference between speaking up and starting drama?
I think it's your intent behind it because when you speak up, Or even like...
let's not do this for these reasons with love behind it versus like, oh, you always do this and you always do that and you say this and it's just so annoying.
I feel like that's more drama, obviously, than trying to correct something with love.
for either someone else's benefit or their benefit.
I would say too, the way that you speak up.
I've seen it happen where someone doesn't like the way that someone else is gossiping or whatever, but then they gossip about them.
gossiping just to someone
else like do you
know how that person gossips all the time but there you go you're doing it like kayla was saying if it involves one person then you go directly to that person you don't need to talk to other people about it because that causes drama i feel like drama and gossip pretty much go together most of the time so go directly to the person lovingly if you need to cool off a little bit before you confront them do that pray for them Because you can't hold grudges and pray for someone at the same time.
Like, it doesn't work.
So pray for them first and then just seek the Lord on how you can respond to them.
And then if you're approaching it that way, it's pretty hard for drama to start.
The Bible talks about in Ephesians 4 verse 15, it says to speak the truth in love.
And then Ephesians 4 29, it says, let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as good for building up as fits the occasion that it may give grace to those who hear.
And so when we think about those things, like we build others up, we speak the truth in love.
It's for their good.
If they're doing something wrong, then yeah, it's for their good that you confront them and you say, hey, you shouldn't do that.
I've been noticing this.
But yeah, it's like, do you love them? And that's why? Or is it because...
you're angry at them, that they did something to you and now you're hurt and so now you need to respond with anger, but it's not that way.
It should be love.
And I think there's that balance there because there has to be truth, but then there's also love at the same time.
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