The Day The Test Changed Everything

**Ep 2: The Day the Test Changed Everything** A positive pregnancy test can feel like a door finally opening. Then it can slam shut without warning. We go back to the moment we saw our first positive during lockdown. We were still waiting on the NHS pathway and thinking IVF was our next step. We talk about the symptoms that sparked the test, the split-second disbelief, and the small rituals that made it real: a babygrow on the bed, a prayer on our knees, and a photo we still remember frame by frame. Before that, we rewind to our foundations, because fertility struggles don't happen in a vacuum. Culture, family expectations, faith, and doing the formalities properly all shaped us. Yes, we revisit the second date where errands nearly ended everything. Then comes the hard turn: bleeding starts days after that positive result. We talk about the fear of miscarriage, having to tell your partner straight after you've celebrated, and the tension between medical advice and what faith sounds like in real time. It's raw and honest, and it's full of the feelings people usually hide. **In this episode** (0:00) Cold open and our promise (2:24) How our relationship moved fast (10:28) The infamous second date errands (18:04) Rings, family meetings and foundations (24:36) Our first positive test during lockdown (30:50) When the bleeding starts (36:30) Support, a game and goodbyes (39:32) Post-chat reflections and thanks **Coming up this season** Donors · reproductive health · illnesses that affect conception · support at work · nutrition · surrogacy · why these are not bad words **Featured: The Rainbow Diaries** Ros created The Rainbow Journal to support anyone processing miscarriage and navigating the journey to conceiving. It gives you space to reflect, find clarity and hold on to gratitude along the way. Get your copy: https://therainbowdiaries.com/product/the-rainbow-journal/ Visit: https://therainbowdiaries.com/ **Support & resources** - The Miscarriage Association, which offers support and information after pregnancy loss: https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/ - HFEA, the UK fertility regulator, with a clinic search and treatment guides: https://www.hfea.gov.uk - NICE fertility guidelines, which set out what the NHS should offer: https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg156 - Fertility Action, which runs free peer support groups: https://fertilityaction.org/fertility-support-groups/ - Peanut, a community app for women at every stage, including TTC: https://www.peanut-app.io If our story helps you feel less alone, subscribe, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people on this journey can find Trying Together. **Follow & subscribe:** tryingtogetherpodcast.com