Oct 10, 2026 · 23 min · 10 segments
What happens when the life you’ve spent years building no longer feels like your own? And what if the biggest thing keeping you stuck isn’t your circumstances, but the story you’ve learned to believe…
Leo DulayGuestFaye De VosHostEven if you find a new job or you feel stuck and disconnected, why can someone change their circumstances and feel exactly the same inside?
So circumstances gives temporary relief, you know, like I got a new job, the new routine, a new goal.
But if your identity stays the same, you still bring the old patterns into your new life.
It's shifting those beliefs, the emotions, and subconscious patterns that determine how you think, feel, and act.
If you want lasting transformation, you have to work on the root cause of the situation.
So we need to like first work on our identity before we can give result or see result from our circumstances every time, right?
So my next question is, do you think people sometimes become attached to what is familiar even when what is familiar isn't necessarily good for them?
I mean, uh, y-y-you know, through my journey, I, I've learned the saying if... or I don't know if it's a saying or what, but it's, um, what you don't know, y-you don't know.
So I mean, until you understand how the subconscious mind works and what you're doing is not your fault, it's just how you're raised.
And I mean, that's why I wrote my book, "You Are Not Your Past," 'cause ev- we all learned this from our past.
Even if you find a new job or you feel stuck and disconnected, why can someone change their circumstances and feel exactly the same inside?
So circumstances gives temporary relief, you know, like I got a new job, the new routine, a new goal.
But if your identity stays the same, you still bring the old patterns into your new life.
It's shifting those beliefs, the emotions, and subconscious patterns that determine how you think, feel, and act.
If you want lasting transformation, you have to work on the root cause of the situation.
So we need to like first work on our identity before we can give result or see result from our circumstances every time, right?
So my next question is, do you think people sometimes become attached to what is familiar even when what is familiar isn't necessarily good for them?
I mean, uh, y-y-you know, through my journey, I, I've learned the saying if... or I don't know if it's a saying or what, but it's, um, what you don't know, y-you don't know.
So I mean, until you understand how the subconscious mind works and what you're doing is not your fault, it's just how you're raised.
And I mean, that's why I wrote my book, "You Are Not Your Past," 'cause ev- we all learned this from our past.
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