Oct 7, 2026 · 46 min · 12 segments
You set a budget to feel organised and in control, but it restricts you from doing the things that could really benefit your life. The money is sitting there, but something stops you from using it…
Tim MalnickHost
Shabbar KassamHost
You noticed that you need a new mattress, and you had a figure in mind that you sort of created that fitted within a budget.
Then you found the perfect mattress, and it was a few hundred quid beyond budget, and that created a load of resistance for you.
It was more the emotion or something came up for you about going over budget or going beyond the budget.
So that made us look a little bit at your situation, what, what came up for you around that, but more generally the idea of budgeting.
And where we got to last time was to notice two tendencies, and we invited people listening to kind of reflect on where they were, but it's almost like a polarity.
Some people put a lot of faith in budgeting and quite a lot of detail, and great, good, but that can tend towards being rigid, fixed, and then the budget kind of becomes a constraint to life.
So you find actually this mattress that's gonna have a major impact on your sleep and wellbeing and your back, but you can't even get the one you really want because it goes over budget.
On the other hand, some people never budget, or they hate budgets, or they're anti-budgets because they're on the side of fl- what they think of as flow and freedom and spontaneity.
And that's great, too, except then what you can find is you run into situations that stop you having real flow and fun and spontaneity 'cause you've run out of money or you spent all your money on something that you didn't really want or couldn't afford, et cetera.
So we looked at those two poles, and people can listen to those if you've not listened, and where we got to, my memory, Shaba, is at the end we said, as with much of this work, and very much in line with Jung, Carl Jung's way of thinking about human development, anytime we have what seems to be an either/or, so either I'm really tight and rigid and controlled with my budget, or I just love flow and I don't budget, often the, the developmental step is not a balance.
It's to hold the tension and some new possibility comes out from the tension between these two apparent opposites.
So we hinted last time about what might be a healthy, and let's say a conscious, relationship to budgeting, and, uh, if I've understood, I think that's what we're doing today.
You noticed that you need a new mattress, and you had a figure in mind that you sort of created that fitted within a budget.
Then you found the perfect mattress, and it was a few hundred quid beyond budget, and that created a load of resistance for you.
It was more the emotion or something came up for you about going over budget or going beyond the budget.
So that made us look a little bit at your situation, what, what came up for you around that, but more generally the idea of budgeting.
And where we got to last time was to notice two tendencies, and we invited people listening to kind of reflect on where they were, but it's almost like a polarity.
Some people put a lot of faith in budgeting and quite a lot of detail, and great, good, but that can tend towards being rigid, fixed, and then the budget kind of becomes a constraint to life.
So you find actually this mattress that's gonna have a major impact on your sleep and wellbeing and your back, but you can't even get the one you really want because it goes over budget.
On the other hand, some people never budget, or they hate budgets, or they're anti-budgets because they're on the side of fl- what they think of as flow and freedom and spontaneity.
And that's great, too, except then what you can find is you run into situations that stop you having real flow and fun and spontaneity 'cause you've run out of money or you spent all your money on something that you didn't really want or couldn't afford, et cetera.
So we looked at those two poles, and people can listen to those if you've not listened, and where we got to, my memory, Shaba, is at the end we said, as with much of this work, and very much in line with Jung, Carl Jung's way of thinking about human development, anytime we have what seems to be an either/or, so either I'm really tight and rigid and controlled with my budget, or I just love flow and I don't budget, often the, the developmental step is not a balance.
It's to hold the tension and some new possibility comes out from the tension between these two apparent opposites.
So we hinted last time about what might be a healthy, and let's say a conscious, relationship to budgeting, and, uh, if I've understood, I think that's what we're doing today.
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