Men On Pause: Why Menopause Is Ending Marriages and How Couples Can Survive It | Marjie Martini

Yesterday she was your partner. Today she feels like a stranger — and neither of you knows why. In this raw, zero-fluff conversation, menopause strategist and author Marjie Martini joins Brittany to pull back the curtain on the 10-to-15 year hormonal transition that's quietly dismantling midlife relationships. Marjie shares her own harrowing journey — a menopause that started at 39, a misdiagnosis that nearly cost her life at 49, and the years of research that turned her into one of the few people helping women actually build a strategy for thriving after 40. Then she gets into the book that's putting her on the map: Men On Pause, a blunt, tactical manual co-written with relationship coach Shems Heartwell to help the men in our lives finally *get it*. This one is for the women in the messy middle, and for every husband, brother, coworker, and friend who wants to show up better. It's about hormones, yes — but really it's about not losing yourself, not losing each other, and building the kind of community that carries us through the next 30 years. What We Cover - Who Marjie was before "menopause strategist" — 25 years as a hairstylist, a life split between Whistler and Sayulita, and the health crisis that changed everything - The menopause journey that started at 39 and the misdiagnosis that nearly turned fatal at 49 - Why the real gap isn't information — it's strategy. Why the "magic pill" mindset fails and what actually works - The surf-buddy conversation and the Kid Carson podcast moment that sparked Men On Pause - Why the book had to be co-written with a man — and how Shems Heartwell delivers the "what to say and how to be" that most partners are desperate for - The masculine framing (the Red Zone, Tactical Neutrality, the intel briefing) and why it lands with men when a therapy-style approach doesn't - "Gray divorce": why divorce rates over 45–50 are sitting around 70%, and how many strong, thriving midlife women are ending up single - Why only about 5% of women have hormones dialed in — and the two biggest roadblocks stopping the rest - The money reframe: hormones at roughly $2–4 a day vs. Botox, gymnastics classes, and $10 lattes - Get your baseline now — why every woman in her 30s should log her hormone panel and keep the data - Why your prescription *will* change one to two times a year for the next 10–15 years — and why staying hyper-aware of new symptoms matters (yes, even "itchy crawly skin") - Reaching sovereignty in your 50s — more compassion, less people-pleasing, and finally putting your own cup first - The one sentence to hand a partner along with the book — and why this conversation belongs with our sons and daughters, too About Marjie Martini Marjie Martini is a menopause strategist and the author of Men On Pause, a #1 Amazon bestseller in Men's Health. Drawing on 25 years in the beauty industry, four years working alongside hormone and regenerative-medicine specialists in Mexico, and her own decade-plus on bioidentical hormones, Marjie helps women over 40 cut through the noise and build a personalized strategy to feel like themselves again. Her mission is to bring menopause into the mainstream for both women *and* the men who love them — so relationships and community stay intact. She splits her time between Whistler, Canada and Sayulita, Mexico.   Resources & Links - Book: *Men On Pause* by Marjie Martini — available on Amazon (Kindle, paperback & Audible) and Apple Books - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marjiemartini/— where you'll find everything - Mentioned: Kid Carson (podcast that sparked the book) · Shems Heartwell (co-author) · Sacred Sons (men's leadership community) · The Wiley Protocol · Dr. Kelly Casperson 🎙️ THE MOM SWEAT SANITY PODCAST Motherhood • Mindset • Fitness • Goal Setting for Modern Moms Hosted by Brittany Anderson — Certified High Performance & Accountability Coach, entrepreneur, retreat host, endurance athlete, and mom of three. Real, unfiltered conversations about motherhood, mindset, wellness, and building a life you actually love. Each week: modern parenting strategies, fitness and wellness for busy moms, mindset shifts that lead to real action, and expert interviews on hormone health, longevity, leadership, and entrepreneurship. 💛 Hit follow and join a community of women who are done living on autopilot.   🔥 WORK WITH ME MOMentum Collective Mastermind — Twice-monthly coaching and accountability, goal clarity, aligned action, a community of growth-focused women, and first access to LIVE events. → https://www.brittanderson.com/tier-1-the-foundation-room 1:1 Coaching & Retreats — High-touch accountability for women who know they're made for more. → https://brittanderson.com   📲 CONNECT Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/brittanyandersoncoaching/ Website → https://brittanderson.com