317. How to Let Go When You REALLY Want It | Non-Attachment

What if the thing you want most is the very thing you need to loosen your grip on? Not give up on, not stop loving, not pretending you don't care about, just stop gripping.

Because whenever I talk about non-attachment, there is one question I get asked more than almost any other.

But Kathy, how am I supposed to not be attached to the result when I really, really want it? And I understand the question.

Maybe you really want the relationship to work.

Maybe you desperately want your child to be okay.

Maybe you spent 20 years building a business and you're preparing to sell it.

Maybe you're waiting for the phone call, the diagnosis, the job, the client, the money, the answer.

Maybe there is something in your life right now that you want so badly that the idea of letting go almost sounds ridiculous.

So what are you supposed to do? Stop caring? Convince yourself that you don't want it? Repeat, I'm detached, I'm detached, I'm detached, while checking your phone every four minutes? That's not non-attachment.

That's attachment wearing a spiritual costume.

And today I want to talk about the difference.

Welcome to the Kathy Owen Perspective Podcast.

My name is Kathy Owen.

I study human patterns under pressure.

I spent years studying psychology, human behavior, emotional regulation, leadership, reality transurfing, and the patterns we fall into when life does not go the way we expected.

I'm also the author of Human Patterns Under Pressure and The Truth Bubbles Up.

And one of the ideas I come back to over and over again is non-attachment.

Because non-attachment sounds simple.

And it is simple.

But simple does not mean easy.

Especially when you really care.

What if the thing you want most is the very thing you need to loosen your grip on? Not give up on, not stop loving, not pretending you don't care about, just stop gripping.

Because whenever I talk about non-attachment, there is one question I get asked more than almost any other.

But Kathy, how am I supposed to not be attached to the result when I really, really want it? And I understand the question.

Maybe you really want the relationship to work.

Maybe you desperately want your child to be okay.

Maybe you spent 20 years building a business and you're preparing to sell it.

Maybe you're waiting for the phone call, the diagnosis, the job, the client, the money, the answer.

Maybe there is something in your life right now that you want so badly that the idea of letting go almost sounds ridiculous.

So what are you supposed to do? Stop caring? Convince yourself that you don't want it? Repeat, I'm detached, I'm detached, I'm detached, while checking your phone every four minutes? That's not non-attachment.

That's attachment wearing a spiritual costume.

And today I want to talk about the difference.

Welcome to the Kathy Owen Perspective Podcast.

My name is Kathy Owen.

I study human patterns under pressure.

I spent years studying psychology, human behavior, emotional regulation, leadership, reality transurfing, and the patterns we fall into when life does not go the way we expected.

I'm also the author of Human Patterns Under Pressure and The Truth Bubbles Up.

And one of the ideas I come back to over and over again is non-attachment.

Because non-attachment sounds simple.

And it is simple.

But simple does not mean easy.

Especially when you really care.