The Inner Edge with Shane Cradock
Jul 6, 2026 · 13 min · 9 segments
We've all been told to "just let it go." But what if letting go isn't something you force... it's something that happens when you see things differently? In this episode, I explore why we hold on to…
Shane CradockHost
So imagine that if I placed a hot stone in your hand, would you need a book? Would you need to be able to read a book on letting go? Would you need training? Would you need a breathing technique? Would you need a weekend retreat or a week-long workshop? No, you wouldn't.

You'd just, you'd drop it immediately because you can see very clearly that it's hurting you, and holding onto it, the stone, hurts more than just instinctively letting go.

And the moment you see what's actually going on, your relationship with it changes, and then letting go can happen just instinctively and naturally.

Now, compare that, say, with something internal, you know, that's, uh, creating a difficult emotion, like, say, resentment or stress or worry or pressure.

You know, what I've noticed over the years is that those kind of, um, conditions, obviously they're...

And we don't realize often that we create that suffering ourselves because that feeling that we have is coming from our reactions, which is our thinking.

We kind of mentally hold on because somewhere in the background we kind of believe that it's helping us.

You know, we kind of believe that worrying relentlessly about something will prepare us better, that holding a grudge will protect us in some way.

Um, maybe replaying a conversation that happened that we didn't like will stop it happening again.

But the irony is that the very thing that we believe is protecting us is often the thing that's hurting us, exhausting us, causing damage.

But the moment that we get clarity of mind as to what's really going on, I think that illusion immediately falls away.

And then again, letting go becomes instinctively natural, just like letting go of that hot stone.

So how do you know that you've actually let something go? I, I think it's you notice how you feel.

So imagine that if I placed a hot stone in your hand, would you need a book? Would you need to be able to read a book on letting go? Would you need training? Would you need a breathing technique? Would you need a weekend retreat or a week-long workshop? No, you wouldn't.

You'd just, you'd drop it immediately because you can see very clearly that it's hurting you, and holding onto it, the stone, hurts more than just instinctively letting go.

And the moment you see what's actually going on, your relationship with it changes, and then letting go can happen just instinctively and naturally.

Now, compare that, say, with something internal, you know, that's, uh, creating a difficult emotion, like, say, resentment or stress or worry or pressure.

You know, what I've noticed over the years is that those kind of, um, conditions, obviously they're...

And we don't realize often that we create that suffering ourselves because that feeling that we have is coming from our reactions, which is our thinking.

We kind of mentally hold on because somewhere in the background we kind of believe that it's helping us.

You know, we kind of believe that worrying relentlessly about something will prepare us better, that holding a grudge will protect us in some way.

Um, maybe replaying a conversation that happened that we didn't like will stop it happening again.

But the irony is that the very thing that we believe is protecting us is often the thing that's hurting us, exhausting us, causing damage.

But the moment that we get clarity of mind as to what's really going on, I think that illusion immediately falls away.

And then again, letting go becomes instinctively natural, just like letting go of that hot stone.

So how do you know that you've actually let something go? I, I think it's you notice how you feel.
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