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The Detachment Circle - The Journey to Self

The Detachment Circle - The Journey to Self

Why Do You Lose Yourself in Love?

Aug 21, 2026 · 39 min · 14 segments

You did not leave. You just slowly stopped showing up as yourself. This episode sits in the real thing first: self-abandonment, anxious attachment, codependence, the roles you took on to keep the…

You did not leave. You just slowly stopped showing up as yourself. This episode sits in the real thing first: self-abandonment, anxious attachment, codependence, the roles you took on to keep the peace. Then it asks the harder question. If you understand your pattern completely, why hasn't it freed you? Because pattern recognition is not pattern breaking. From there we go into Vedanta, the two birds of the Mundaka Upanishad, and what in you never disappeared in any relationship you have ever been in. I also share how I read Rumi wrong for years, and what it cost me. The Wisdom Circle and The Karmic Cleanse are both linked in the show notes. Stay aware, stay free, and stay true to yourself. Apply to work with me - https://www.awareandbeyond.com/training/apply Join the community - https://www.awareandbeyond.com/wisdomcircle

You did not leave. You just slowly stopped showing up as yourself. This episode sits in the real thing first: self-abandonment, anxious attachment, codependence, the roles you took on to keep the…

Speakers: Siddharth DasHost

Top entities: Ātman×8 Love Vedanta×5 fear×2 Upanishads

When Love Makes You Disappear0:00 – 1:06

Siddharth DasHost

0:00

There comes a moment in your relationship, you know that moment, where you can't find yourself in it.

Siddharth DasHost

0:05

You did not leave, but you're not there anymore.

Siddharth DasHost

0:09

Your opinions have gone.

Siddharth DasHost

0:11

Your friend circle is nonexistent, and you're always reading their mood before you can even find your own.

Siddharth DasHost

0:19

Your entire world revolve around them.

Siddharth DasHost

0:22

You did not leave, but you faded away in that relationship, slowly, daily.

Siddharth DasHost

0:28

It was not one big blow.

Siddharth DasHost

0:30

It was a small disappearance, moment by moment.

Siddharth DasHost

0:34

And today, we will dive deeper into a question, why we lose ourself in love, and what can we do to come back? [intro music] Welcome to The Detachment Circle, where we dive deeper into mindfulness, detachment, and spiritual wisdom to help you live with clarity and peace.

Siddharth DasHost

1:01

My name is Siddharth, your guide in the journey to self-realization.

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Self-SacrificeRelationships > Love > Self-Identity
Personal DevelopmentRelationships > Love > Self-Identity > Self-Sacrifice
Attachment StylesPsychology > Self-Awareness > Identity
Co-dependencePsychology > Self-Awareness > Identity > Attachment Styles
Self-RealizationLifestyle > Personal Growth
SpiritualityLifestyle > Personal Growth > Self-Realization
MindfulnessLifestyle > Personal Growth > Self-Realization > Spirituality
Sacrifice in LoveCulture > Social Norms > Romantic Relationships
Emotional HealthCulture > Social Norms > Romantic Relationships > Sacrifice in Love
Mental HealthHealth
Lifestyle
Personal GrowthLifestyle
Self-AwarenessPsychology
Romantic RelationshipsCulture > Social Norms
Emotional Well-beingHealth > Mental Health
Self-IdentityRelationships > Love
LoveRelationships
Therapeutic PracticesHealth > Mental Health > Emotional Well-being > Self-Care
IdentityPsychology > Self-Awareness
Social NormsCulture
Health
Self-CareHealth > Mental Health > Emotional Well-being
Psychology
Culture
Relationships

When Love Makes You Disappear0:00 – 1:06

Siddharth DasHost

0:00

There comes a moment in your relationship, you know that moment, where you can't find yourself in it.

Siddharth DasHost

0:05

You did not leave, but you're not there anymore.

Siddharth DasHost

0:09

Your opinions have gone.

Siddharth DasHost

0:11

Your friend circle is nonexistent, and you're always reading their mood before you can even find your own.

Siddharth DasHost

0:19

Your entire world revolve around them.

Siddharth DasHost

0:22

You did not leave, but you faded away in that relationship, slowly, daily.

Siddharth DasHost

0:28

It was not one big blow.

Siddharth DasHost

0:30

It was a small disappearance, moment by moment.

Siddharth DasHost

0:34

And today, we will dive deeper into a question, why we lose ourself in love, and what can we do to come back? [intro music] Welcome to The Detachment Circle, where we dive deeper into mindfulness, detachment, and spiritual wisdom to help you live with clarity and peace.

Siddharth DasHost

1:01

My name is Siddharth, your guide in the journey to self-realization.