The Big Talk with Tricia Brouk
Jun 30, 2026 · 13 min · 5 segments
In this episode, I share a powerful personal story about reaching out to a friend who used derogatory language on social media. Rather than ignoring it or publicly calling him out, I chose a…
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A friend of mine, someone I genuinely care about, someone I've known for years, posted something on social media that used a derogatory term about a woman.
And regardless of how anyone feels about that particular public figure or politics, the word he used was one of those words that, as a woman, lands in the body.
I could have scrolled past it quietly, filed it away as a difference of opinion, and protected the friendship.
Anger made it a public spectacle and felt the short-term rush of having said something in service of all women everywhere.
My question is, have you ever considered how this particular name-calling might have caused me to feel? I want you to know that my curiosity is sincere.
In the spirit of curiosity and intention, I genuinely want to understand and I genuinely want to talk.
Not in the position I was staking out, not in being right, but in the quality of the question and the intention behind it.
Let me give you what I learned from this conversation because it became one of those profound exchanges that I hold in my heart.
And I want to break it down for you so you can bring it into your life and into your leadership.
When someone says or does something we find offensive, our hackles get up, our skin crawls.
There's a biological impulse to defend, to correct, to make them wrong so we can be right.
And if you have a platform as a speaker, as a leader, as an influential voice, that impulse can feel even more charged because you know how to use words.
A friend of mine, someone I genuinely care about, someone I've known for years, posted something on social media that used a derogatory term about a woman.
And regardless of how anyone feels about that particular public figure or politics, the word he used was one of those words that, as a woman, lands in the body.
I could have scrolled past it quietly, filed it away as a difference of opinion, and protected the friendship.
Anger made it a public spectacle and felt the short-term rush of having said something in service of all women everywhere.
My question is, have you ever considered how this particular name-calling might have caused me to feel? I want you to know that my curiosity is sincere.
In the spirit of curiosity and intention, I genuinely want to understand and I genuinely want to talk.
Not in the position I was staking out, not in being right, but in the quality of the question and the intention behind it.
Let me give you what I learned from this conversation because it became one of those profound exchanges that I hold in my heart.
And I want to break it down for you so you can bring it into your life and into your leadership.
When someone says or does something we find offensive, our hackles get up, our skin crawls.
There's a biological impulse to defend, to correct, to make them wrong so we can be right.
And if you have a platform as a speaker, as a leader, as an influential voice, that impulse can feel even more charged because you know how to use words.
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